Do you think that wealthy men concerned about "gold-diggers" are overly paranoid? (self.AskWomen)
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Background: I'm a 29-year-old endocrinologist at a large hospital and have entered the dating scene after a very very long period of celibacy. Simply put, nobody in the world seemed to find me attractive until recently, when I've been going on a string of dates with girls. (I think I have a good personality and good hygiene, and always have.)
Problem is, I noticed that women would immediately perk up when I mentioned that I was a doctor at a big medical center. Initially, I figured maybe they were just interested in my profession and not my status/money; however, I decided that I would need to know for sure in case these doubts about their intentions kept nagging at me.
So I started to administer little field tests to find out what these girls were so excited about. For the first hour of conversation or so, I'd deliberately leave out any mention of being a doctor, instead I would say things like "Oh I help run blood tests and assist nurses during operations at the hospital" and then wait for their response. Essentially, I'd talk about all the science/coolness/wonder of being a medical physician without actually using the word "doctor". Later on the date, I would specify that I'm a doctor.
The results have been extremely dismaying... I've been on something like 30 dates in the last year and out of that, 29 women didn't seem to give a shit about my work until they heard the magical D-word. Immediately after I say that, they become extremely interested and much more touchy feely with me, talk a lot more with me, return my texts faster, and so on.
They literally will go from borderline bored/dispassionate/uninterested to energetic creatures who are laughing and trying to act cutesy with me. All in the span of a minute.
This doesn't make me feel very good. I've always been open-minded when it comes to gender and don't want to be a misogynist, but I don't like what I'm seeing. Essentially status and money seems to be so important, but I want to be liked for more than that.
So my question is: Are men like me being paranoid? In your experience, what do you think of wealthy people who distrust dates because of the fear that they may be just after money and status?
48 comments submitted at 21:45:44 on Jan 11, 2014 by merteil1