Me [26 M] and my girlfriend [24 F] of 3 months had a disagreement about her choice of clothing around my male roommate. Am I being sexist? (self.relationships)
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My girlfriend, a hyper-intelligent and vocal feminist, and me got into a spat this morning. It began after we woke up and made our way into the living room of my apartment. She was wearing her boy short panties and, after I told her they made her ass look nice, I reluctantly told her that it made uncomfortable for her to be wearing so little in the potential presence of my roommate.
She complains that I was expecting her to compromise her comfort for my sake. I anticipated this and mostly just said I'm sorry, I really didn't think her wearing something else was such a concession to make. It didn't seem like she would be any less comfortable wearing a pair of my shorts or sweats.
Anyway, my roommate comes downstairs (right on cue) in his boxers. She points to him and incredulously asks if I'm going to tell him to put on pants. I can already sense the futility of this argument, but she demands an answer.
I tell her that 1) His boxers aren't form-fitting, aside from seeing some leg, there's still plenty left to the imagination. 2) He isn't my partner. Is it really that wrong to be covetous of your partner and want them to be more clothed in front of a roommate in that situation?
She then objected to the whole situation as an example of gender inequality. Maybe she's right. I dunno. Thoughts?
tl;dr: My girlfriend felt comfortable wearing her underwear around my roommate, but I didn't.
117 comments submitted at 21:41:13 on Jan 17, 2014 by amisexist_throwaway