I [31M] have been with my wife [30F] since we were teenagers. We have always agreed we didn't want kids. She seems to be changing her mind. I haven't. (self.relationships)
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That pretty much sums it up but the longer version: we dated since high school, got married when we were 26, and have a pretty much wonderful relationship otherwise. We never argue, regular sex, both good jobs, own our house, good neighborhood, stable jobs, pretty much the perfect little married life.
One thing we've always agreed on throughout our relationship is that neither one of us wanted kids. They're expensive, they're so much responsibility and work, they cry all the goddamn time, you never get a good night's sleep, they grow out of every piece of clothing you buy 2 minutes after you buy it, they shit like horses, etc. etc. And that's just the first year or two.
Our joke has kind of always been that while all our other friends started having kids and stopped having lives, we were going to still be the fun couple who were able to go on vacations and buy frivolous things, or drop everything on the spur of the moment and go spend a weekend away somewhere and shit like that. We were going to be the old people in the prescription drug commercials jogging along the beach instead of the frazzled parent trying to make sure our kid doesn't miss the bus while we get ready for work.
Well.....my wife's clock seems to be ticking. A bunch of women she works with (including a close friend) are pregnant and she finally admitted to me tonight that--not now--but a few years down the road, when we're more financially secure and life had settled down some, she might like to have a kid.
I.....still don't want kids. At all. I'm an uncle to a little 2 year old and I love being able to be the "fun uncle" and get any dad-feelings out that way, but the second he starts crying or being fussy, I love being able to just say, "Not mine, here, take him back!" I'm not looking to be convinced that kids aren't that bad or I'll feel different if it's my own or whatever. That's fine and dandy and I know and I've heard at all. Still do not want kids.
But I love her and I understand that void women feel when they want kids and, for whatever reason, can't have them. So now I don't know what the fuck to do. I'm hoping that when all her co-workers have their babies, they'll start coming to work telling her horror stories and change her mind.
tl;dr: wife of many years and I always said we didn't want kids. Now she thinks she might. I still don't want any.
111 comments submitted at 03:28:47 on Jan 22, 2014 by 901ninja