GF pregnant by another guy after wild weekend of sex with him. Gory details inside. Thoughts appreciated. (self.relationship_advice)

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Me and my GF are both 30. We have good jobs and make a reasonable amount of money. We have been together for 5 years.

I love her very much. She is to be frank the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. She could easily be a model. She is many guys ideal woman and a certain 10/10. Whenever she goes out she gets hit on CONSTANTLY. Whether i'm there or not actually.

Me, not so much although I have no problem attracting women. I am above average (7/10) and take care of myself, but I couldn't be a male model or anything.

Generally our relationship has been fantastic. Neither of us has been unfaithful and we are very much in love. I certainly love her very very much.

The last six or so months have been stressful however. Work has been into overdrive for both of us, and although we've made a reasonable amount of money towards buying our first house either of us getting home before 10pm has been very rare. Basically we've been exhausted and have neglected both sex and our relationship, although not for any other reason than time and being exhausted. My feelings haven't altered one iota and neither have hers.

Fast forward to around 2.5 months ago when we were both invited to separate reunions with old friends across the country (neither of us are originally from the area we're living in now). It was a great opportunity for both of us to blow off steam after working so hard and neglecting life for a few months, although we were both disappointed it wasn't going to be with each other.

So we kissed, told each other how much we loved and will miss each other, and I went across the country to my hotel and she went to hers.

Lets just say, we had VERY different weekends.

Hers involved going to a party where in her words, the most good looking guy she has ever seen approached her. Apparently he was a friend of a friend of someone else at the party. She basically said every woman was getting wet just looking at him and she was just on a high that this guy approached her. She didn't plan on anything, but everyone was drinking heavily and she ended up in bed with him....... FOR MOST OF THE WEEKEND.

When she came back she was the most loving attentive girlfriend you have ever seen. I was still too tired/exhausted for sex, but literally she was like a stepford wife in the weeks that followed. I stupidly just put it down to her missing me and loved that she loved me so much.

Fast forward again, she broke down and said she couldn't cope with the lie anymore and told me everything. Prompted I'm sure by her finding out that morning that she's pregnant. There is ZERO possibility of it being mine.

She is the most sorry and frightened woman you have ever seen. She even asked me to physically assault her because she is so angry and upset that she cheated on me. She will do ANYTHING I want to make things ok. It's a bit scary actually. She is frightened and literally shaking at the prospect of me leaving her.

If i'm honest with myself I think most of the fear is about the baby. She is crying saying she can't get rid of it and she is terrified of keeping it and raising it alone.

I was completely and utterly numb and heartbroken.

I said to her that before I go any further, I need the truth. Literally every second of what happened that weekend or I'm out the door. I knew this was a double edged sword and that the reality and cold facts could destroy me, but I'm one of these people who can't not know.

The facts were horrifying and made me physically sick. I actually threw up. Basically my girlfriend was this guys personal porn star for the weekend. Some highlights:-

  • It was the roughest most aggressive sex she has ever experienced, and she fucking loved every minute of it. It was the best sex she has ever experienced.
  • She had several powerful and intense orgasms during their weekend in bed. She has never ever cum like this before with anyone or solo.
  • His dick was the best she has ever taken. 9" (he made her fucking measure it during one of their sex games) which rubbed all the right areas and he could keep going for hours
  • They didn't use protection (obviously) and he came in her mouth (she swallowed) all over her face, her tits and inside her several times during their weekend together. (How big were this guys balls?) Fun fact, after he came on her tits he pushed her back on the bed and scooped up his cum with his finger and FED it to her.
  • He smacked her during sex (not too hard), her ass and her face and before she had time to even feel the pain or react he would whisper something or do something passionate that made her just let him "keep going" so she said. So he basically taught my girlfriend to enjoy some BDSM that weekend. Awesome.
  • He caught some of the above on his camera phone. So there is a video somewhere of my girlfriend basically acting like a pornstar in a cheap hotel room.

So, Reddit. I can't say I didn't consider the implications of asking, but fucking hell I have had my heart firmly ripped from me.

Currently therefore I have a girlfriend who is pregnant by a male model BDSM hero with a magic cock, who is going to have his baby, and who is so sorry she will do whatever the fuck I want so that I can somehow get over this and stay with her. Basically I can treat her however I please as long as I don't leave. It's fine if I hate her for the rest of my life even as long as I stay with her.

We have been talking about marriage and kids this last year and she is desperate for me to commit to that still. She keeps promising to spend the rest of her life making this up to me and will be the perfect wife I could possibly want.

I don't even know what to think right now. I feel like every sense I have has been shorted out and I am now totally numb.

My first instinct is to just wait for her to work in the morning, then pack up all my stuff and just leave. I am not the type of guy to raise another guys baby. Especially now I know the full circumstances of how it was conceived. We have just 2 months left on our lease and I can easily switch to a different end of the country with my job very quickly. I feel so grateful for that right now.

So I can literally leave and never speak to or hear from her again.

The only problem is that I am so in love with her. I don't feel like I'll ever get over her. Fuck. I'm hesitating. I'm second guessing myself.

What do you think reddit? Is it possible to overcome a situation like this? I can't think how. I simply cannot raise this guys kid. I can't. Fuck.

My heads all over the place. Rational thoughts would be awesome about now.

701 comments submitted at 20:27:34 on Nov 13, 2011 by thrownaway743

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  • throwaway-o
  • 110 Points
  • 22:15:58, 13 November

> I love her very much.

No you don't. Either you are terrified of being alone, or you have fallen in love with a woman that doesn't exist, or you like to grovel to people who don't respect you.

> She is to be frank the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. She could easily be a model.

Great for her. Doesn't matter, because she chose someone else NOT YOU.

> She is many guys ideal woman

Wouldn't be my ideal woman, I'll tell you that. Fucking around with other men behind my back pretty much GUARANTEES she is the OPPOSITE of an ideal woman, for ALL men who have self-respect. Skanks are not ideal.

> and a certain 10/10.

Except for the whoring around...


Here's the deal, buddy. I bet you ten to one this whoring around has been going on for quite a long time, and I also bet you that what you know happened, is only the tip of the iceberg. You think she din't plan DELIBERATELY how she would be royally fucked by another man? Course she did. It was in her mind all along. People don't DO things they DON'T WANT to do.

LOL, don't be a chump. No, not a chump, a herb -- you let her go alone to see another man and you don't even SUSPECT this was going to happen? See...

> She basically said every woman was getting wet just looking at him and she was just on a high that this guy approached her.

...if YOU were provoking this reaction in her, then she wouldn't be getting this reaction from another man.

> It was the roughest most aggressive sex she has ever experienced, and she fucking loved every minute of it. It was the best sex she has ever experienced.

See, there's no coming back from that one, pal. You will never cause this in her. How do I know this? Well, in FIVE YEARS you haven't -- not like this stranger fellow, certainly not, according to her own words. And this fellow comes along, and in his first attempt, not even planning to do it, he does it for her. TADAAAAAA! I donno if you've seen video of the female cervix during orgasm, but I'll tell you anyway: That uterus of hers sure as fuck did double duty as a Hoover for this guy's sperm. Hitachi Magic Wand with a side dish of whole milk for her. No wonder she's pregnant.

(As an aside: this is what we, in the seduction community, call a bona fide Alpha man. He appears, unashamedly and unapologetically takes your shit, then walks away whistling.)

She doesn't want you anymore. She doesn't get excited with you anymore. She doesn't feel anything but lukewarm about you. She does not love you.

And that's why, whatever you feel, doesn't matter.


> Currently therefore I have a girlfriend who is pregnant by a male model BDSM hero with a magic cock, who is going to have his baby, and who is so sorry she will do whatever the fuck I want so that I can somehow get over this and stay with her. Basically I can treat her however I please as long as I don't leave. It's fine if I hate her for the rest of my life even as long as I stay with her.

This groveling on her part will last for a little while. Then she will resent you for not giving her the sex that she has now experienced. FOREVER. She'll cheat again, and again, and again, until she finally leaves you -- but not before disrespecting you to the point that you will believe it was all your fault that she cheated.


If you respect yourself, you will walk and start anew somewhere else with someone else.

If you don't respect yourself, you will be miserable forever, raising a kid that belongs to a man who is better at sex than you. Tell me: how will you feel every time you look at the kid, and back at your wife? You don't know misery yet... but you will.

Good luck. Hopefully you learn to become that man, rather than sticking around that woman.

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  • mship
  • 47 Points
  • 23:03:29, 13 November

Also dont forget that once they have been together for some time he will be considered the father of the child and when she does decide to leave him she will make him pay her child support. That will be the icing on the cake.

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  • throwaway-o
  • 39 Points
  • 23:19:23, 13 November

YEAP.

And if he ever decides to walk after what you said happens, he will be forever shat upon with the terms deadbeat dad.

Wouldn't that be ironic?

So if he sticks around now... he'll have to stick around later as well... and later on, when the bitch starts just fucking around, she will have absolutely no legal problem dumping his sorry ass and walking away with a fat monthly check and the kid ("marriage vows"? LOLOLOLOLOL).

Meanwhile, he will be forced (violently, because prison isn't puppies and rainbows) to pay that stupid check, and denied rights to see his NON-child, he will have no money to pick up another (a decent) woman, and will forever be miserable. The courts won't hear a peep about "but, Your Honor, he's not my child!" because all they care is the "welfare of the child" (translated: the welfare of the cunt, who gets to spend the money however she sees fit, even in detriment to the child).

OP needs to know this is the reality of what awaits him if he sticks around the whore.

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  • ButcherBlues
  • 12 Points
  • 00:52:13, 14 November

This should be at top, I really hope this poor man makes the right choice and leaves.

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  • Blakeacake
  • 12 Points
  • 22:42:37, 13 November

As harsh as this is I agree with it after some thinking. She probably gets off on it being "forbidden".

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  • militantomg
  • 9 Points
  • 23:57:17, 13 November

this deserves to be at the top.

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  • funkah
  • 3 Points
  • 20:00:49, 14 November

Ahaha, man this is awesome. It's sad how many dudes really don't know the deal, but man do I get a kick out of someone laying it out for them. The Hoover-cervix thing was hilarious.

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  • Worlds_Worst_Handjob
  • 2 Points
  • 03:25:50, 14 November

Goddamn that was beautifully well spoken.

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  • rKade
  • 0 Points
  • 05:07:56, 14 November

I didn't know Ron Jeremy had a Reddit account!