I believe that 21st century cultural expectations for men (qua the masculine ideal) are unrealistic and undesirable. CMV! (self.changemyview)
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I perceive a strange tension between myself (27-year-old man), my friends, and society. I have seen the extreme masculine in its most beautiful and terrifying forms. I believe that society asks men to anesthetize themselves. And male safe-spaces (for lack of a better term)- aka places where men celebrate masculinity- are relegated to weird corners of society. The last bastion of masculinity may literally be the locker room.
As a amateur philosopher (10 years going strong), I have read quite a lot of feminism, and I understand where academic feminism stands on the issue (from their various viewpoints ofc). As an amateur philosopher (and probably a biased observer) I am unimpressed by their arguments- which literally never start from a universal premise- and literally always end in an emotional appeal.
WHAT ISSUES DO I PERCEIVE WITH 21st CENTURY MASCULINITY?
They are mostly subtle. For example, I find myself being unable to say a broad range of things in public. I usually cannot congratulate a man on bedding a beautiful woman if I am in a public space for fear of offending someone perceived misogyny.
My gf recently blew up at me for feeling good for the man and not also mentioning the women in this situation. My reply to her was this: "aren't I allowed to put my arm around a guy's shoulder and congratulate him for putting a notch on his belt?" This comment didn't work for her at all.
These instances are also historical. I find myself longing to have lived in 19th century Prussia, ancient Greece, Rome, or Crete. In each of these the masculine was celebrated (in addition to the feminine).
I wish everyone knew how good it feels to participate in a good clean fist fight. I wish everyone knew how good it feels to get a sack in a state championship game; or how men have a particular way of shaking hands with each other.
WHY AM I BRINGING THIS ISSUE HERE?
I would prefer to believe that all the beta-men that I see around me are not being cheated out of something valuable by a bullshit-pc culture. I see weakness and fattness in men, I shake limp wrists too often, and I hear all the time that men my age prefer not to practice their more violent virtues (or potentialities).
25 comments submitted at 16:34:47 on Feb 9, 2014 by doughd