r/okcupid confession booth (self.OkCupid)

OkCupid

18 ups - 1 downs = 17 votes

Spill your dating dirt. Have you canceled on someone at the last minute? Pulled the fade? Slashed someone's tires after they didn't agree to a second date? Please share.

243 comments submitted at 00:59:09 on Feb 20, 2014 by HollyGolightlyCC

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  • bahbahblacksheeps
  • 31 Points
  • 01:04:49, 20 February

I went on a sex binge and didn't make most of the guys use a condom. All of my tests have came back clean. So far.

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  • blondedre3000
  • 6 Points
  • 01:14:18, 20 February

That is some good confession right there.

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  • CensoryDeprivation
  • 7 Points
  • 01:15:47, 20 February

Throw in a taxi cab and some drunk lesbians and you've got mid 90's MTV-gold.

  • [-]
  • AlliterativeAlpaca
  • 2 Points
  • 06:16:03, 20 February

Twist, blacksheeps is a dude.

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  • PerpetualMotionApp
  • 5 Points
  • 04:29:10, 20 February

Not a sex binge but I am probably way too insecure to be having sex with dudes too soon.... it's like I am too insecure with myself and with sex acts to push for a condom use :/ I do not have safe sex. But I am clean as well. And p much gonna be celibate aka not having sex until I get to know someone a bit AKA SECOND TIME I MEET THEM? MAYBE THAT WILL HAPPEN SOMETIME.

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  • volar92
  • 2 Points
  • 04:53:23, 20 February

As a guy from the Bay area it shouldn't be too hard for you to find someone that wants to meet you a second time . I mean the male/female ratio in this area is completely off the charts.

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  • PerpetualMotionApp
  • 1 Points
  • 04:58:06, 20 February

I've really had sad luck in any of it. There are some logical factors that I can think of to explain some of it maybe, but frankly I give into just emotionally feeling shitty about it all.

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  • trustmeiamagirl
  • 4 Points
  • 01:24:16, 20 February

Hope your lucky streak continues.

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  • bahbahblacksheeps
  • 5 Points
  • 01:27:23, 20 February

All good things must come to an end. I'm currently in a monogamous relationship.

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  • 2bABee
  • 2 Points
  • 04:43:14, 20 February

Does he know?

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  • chrisbenoitballs
  • 2 Points
  • 07:42:57, 20 February

Genuinely curious, no judgment intended: did any of the guys want to use a condom? The way its written, it seems like guys just don't want to use a rubber.

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  • tardisblue76
  • 13 Points
  • 01:11:19, 20 February

I am pretty bad with cancelling at the last minute- I get "sick" a lot.

Debating on doing this for something I have tomorrow night, actually.

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  • blondedre3000
  • 6 Points
  • 01:23:43, 20 February

I always call girls out when they pull this shit. It insults my intelligence.

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  • lassomoon
  • 3 Points
  • 01:29:09, 20 February

People actually get sick sometimes though.

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  • blondedre3000
  • 5 Points
  • 01:31:45, 20 February

I can tell the difference.

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  • lassomoon
  • 2 Points
  • 01:40:05, 20 February

Even if they say the exact same words?

  • [-]
  • blondedre3000
  • 7 Points
  • 01:45:05, 20 February

I have EBP: Extrasensory Bullshit Perception.

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  • samerina
  • 4 Points
  • 01:12:41, 20 February

Someone gave me the "I have a migraine" excuse last night. Lucky me because I didn't feel like going! :P

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  • tardisblue76
  • 1 Points
  • 01:13:36, 20 February

Oooh you did luck out! Maybe some of that luck will rub off on my for tomorrow.

"Luckily" I have vertigo, so that's a good excuse to use when I want to get out of things.

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  • samerina
  • 1 Points
  • 01:15:46, 20 February

oh man.. I had a case of the dizzies today. Sorry you have that :(

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  • tardisblue76
  • 1 Points
  • 01:17:33, 20 February

Thanks. I hate it LOTS but all I can really do is accept it.

It's wonderful for calling out sick from work though, because it can just last a day.

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  • samerina
  • 1 Points
  • 01:19:45, 20 February

Yeah, then you can sleep! I wanted to go home sick today… but I always feel guilty because my boss has zero compassion. So I stuck it out and worked very slowly all day.

Also, have you seen Arrested Development where Lucile 2 has vertigo?

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  • tardisblue76
  • 1 Points
  • 01:20:37, 20 February

Oh my god yes!! It's actually not that far off from how she portrays it also!

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  • samerina
  • 1 Points
  • 01:21:42, 20 February

it's just so funny when she walks out of the rehab center and tries to catch a guy falling and then they both fall over dizzy.

but sowwy :|

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  • dubhthuathach
  • 1 Points
  • 04:38:09, 20 February

I actually do have crippling migraines that can strike with almost no notice. Invariably I feel (even more) like shit when I have to cancel something because of one.

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  • samerina
  • 1 Points
  • 05:22:37, 20 February

Don't worry, just reschedule. No biggie

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  • trustmeiamagirl
  • 2 Points
  • 01:24:00, 20 February

Why make a date if you're apathetic about the person?

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  • dubhthuathach
  • 3 Points
  • 04:35:58, 20 February

Because you're willing to give them a chance to be more interesting in person before you write them off.

Because they're kind of hot, even though they're boring or otherwise a good match.

Because you have nothing else to do on a Thursday evening.

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  • tardisblue76
  • 2 Points
  • 01:26:44, 20 February

Because you never really know how a person really is until you meet in real life.

I'm apathetic about most of my dates UNTIL I actually meet them. Sometimes, it's totally different, sometimes, it's not. But I like to give it a chance anyways.

Also, not always apathetic, sometimes the good old social anxiety kicks in.

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  • ninjette847
  • 2 Points
  • 05:20:06, 20 February

I used to be really bad about this too. I'd set up dates when I was drunk and then sober me didn't want to go. It wasn't last minute though, normally night before or morning of.

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  • turtle_the_dog
  • 11 Points
  • 01:48:53, 20 February

I've used the same stupid copypasta with almost every message today with a much higher success rate than a personalized message based on a profile.

[edit] As of now, it has a 12% success rate.

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  • NeverNo
  • 1 Points
  • 08:44:18, 20 February

With all the females here posting their responses to messages just saying "Hello", I'm not surprised.

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  • d8000
  • 10 Points
  • 02:18:22, 20 February

Sometimes I deliberately wait a while to respond to texts so I don't seem like a needy clingy person who's always waiting to hear from them.

Oh^god^I'm^so^ronery

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  • CervezaRoja
  • 1 Points
  • 02:27:52, 20 February

Don't feel bad. I do the same thing. Then again I am sometimes really busy so I can't respond.

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  • Broligarchy
  • 16 Points
  • 00:59:46, 20 February

Uh yeah I've pulled a fuckton of fades because I'm a shitbag.

I also let dudes kiss me even though I know I'm going to turn down (or fade from!) a second date which is either shitty or benevolent depending on how you look at it I guess.

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  • LastMimsiE
  • 15 Points
  • 01:01:36, 20 February

Sometimes a man can use a pity makeout.

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  • duckpunched
  • 3 Points
  • 04:12:23, 20 February

a man can always use a pity makeout!

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  • penguin_in_a_beret
  • 2 Points
  • 04:57:41, 20 February

Ugh. I hate the pity make out. IF YOU'RE NOT INTERESTED THEN JUST SAY SO!

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  • 2bABee
  • 5 Points
  • 05:10:14, 20 February

I've had girls confess to me pity sex is easier than saying no.

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  • penguin_in_a_beret
  • 3 Points
  • 05:31:40, 20 February

And I can understand the sentiment. I've had one occasion when I should have up and walked out. Why didn't I? Certainly not pity. But because I'd come (through various circumstances) to question myself deeply, and failed to have strength in my own convictions. But I learnt my lesson on that front (and had unwanted bruises for 3 weeks to remind me... but at least I can spin a good yarn about it these days, involving Germans, and carrots).

Separate to this, my position still stands that if you can't touch me in genuine desire, then do not touch me at all. Pity make outs are not for me.

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  • OkStoohpud
  • 1 Points
  • 05:32:40, 20 February

Where do you meet these women? Pity sex is still sex.

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  • LastMimsiE
  • 1 Points
  • 05:21:11, 20 February

As long as everyone knows what it is beforehand there's no harm. Makeouts are fun.

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  • penguin_in_a_beret
  • 3 Points
  • 05:34:17, 20 February

Indeed they are. And to each their own. But I don't need or want a reminder that here is another person who doesn't find me attractive or desirable.

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  • LastMimsiE
  • 2 Points
  • 06:31:16, 20 February

That's usually what the booze is for.

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  • penguin_in_a_beret
  • 2 Points
  • 06:48:59, 20 February

Ah. No booze for me. Which means I feel bad about it at the time, rather than the next morning.

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  • LastMimsiE
  • 2 Points
  • 06:54:21, 20 February

:( Hugs

  • [-]
  • penguin_in_a_beret
  • 2 Points
  • 07:02:54, 20 February

Ah, no frowny faces necessary, but I will accept ALL THE HUGS!

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  • trustmeiamagirl
  • 4 Points
  • 01:23:27, 20 February

Shitbag, shmitbag.

There are worse things you could do.

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  • dubhthuathach
  • 3 Points
  • 04:39:42, 20 February

Hey, a hickey from Kenickie is like a Hallmark card.

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  • redditkcupid
  • 4 Points
  • 01:27:20, 20 February

I've let guys kiss me just so I didn't have to deal with the awkwardness of turning down their kiss...

Though, in all fairness, every guy I've done that to has gotten a "Thanks but no thanks" text in response to their next attempt at an outing.

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  • blondedre3000
  • 4 Points
  • 01:10:36, 20 February

Sometimes you just need to know if somebody's a good kisser or not for second date potential.

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  • samerina
  • 1 Points
  • 01:15:03, 20 February

For real. That used to be how I ended first dates. but I kissed too many frogs!

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  • superhighheels
  • 8 Points
  • 01:50:09, 20 February

HUGE CONFESSION.

I say I dislike dogs on my profile. But, secretly I am considering adopting a westie.

They seem cat-esque enough I won't have to admit to cheating on my own kind.

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  • kittiesandmirrors
  • 7 Points
  • 01:54:05, 20 February

I really am not sure if I like dogs or not. In theory I do because they are cute and adorable, but in practice they all really annoy me and seem very slobbery and needy and overly attached. I'm a bad person....

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  • superhighheels
  • 1 Points
  • 02:01:37, 20 February

> I really am not sure if I like dogs or not.

Yeah. This has kind of been my feeling on men (and dogs). Like, they're cute, maybe...kinda. But, in practice they really annoy me and seem very slobbery sort of needy and overly attached.

But, then you watch them go fetch a frisbee or something and see their tails wagging. And, it's like. OK. MAYBE.

I have always had cats. This would be a first dog. But, I don't know. The spunky Type A personality of westies I meet in parks just kind of sings to me. Like, maybe not all dogs are okay. But, a westie might be.

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  • 2bABee
  • 3 Points
  • 04:46:40, 20 February

It's so cute how nobody is a person to you, except you.

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  • okc_throwaway_nyc
  • 1 Points
  • 04:43:22, 20 February

DOGS ARE THE SHIT

TELL ME WHAT YOU WANT FETCHED

ILL FETCH IT

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  • okc_throwaway_nyc
  • 2 Points
  • 04:42:38, 20 February

Do you .... Think you're a cat?

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  • okcukv
  • 1 Points
  • 04:54:11, 20 February

Get one of these. It's like a dog, but knows to crap in a box.

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  • Studninja
  • 22 Points
  • 01:03:40, 20 February

I have faded on so many guys that I was texting or messaging that it isn't even funny. Hot guys. Smart guys. Rich guys. Nice guys. I just get bored of the conversation and let them die or recently I kinda let my depression dictate that I just don't want to meet anyone.

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  • CensoryDeprivation
  • 11 Points
  • 01:24:51, 20 February

Nothing is hotter than a night of crippling self-loathing. Mmm just thinking about it makes me want to binge eat and re-live my failures.

  • [-]
  • Studninja
  • 5 Points
  • 01:40:19, 20 February

Lol well the good news is I am almost through this phase. Next is the revenge weight loss and fitness program.

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  • CensoryDeprivation
  • 5 Points
  • 01:42:53, 20 February

I still get daily calls from L.A. Fitness from the one time I went like a month ago. Jessica is fucking persistent.

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  • turtle_the_dog
  • 14 Points
  • 01:50:00, 20 February

You should ask her out. Based on my experience, she'll never talk to you again.

  • [-]
  • CensoryDeprivation
  • 10 Points
  • 02:01:47, 20 February

That's so socially awkward it just might work.

  • [-]
  • Studninja
  • 1 Points
  • 02:02:21, 20 February

I already have a trainer

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  • blondedre3000
  • 5 Points
  • 01:37:07, 20 February

You can only have so many lukewarm conversations before they all start to blend together.

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  • Studninja
  • 1 Points
  • 01:42:22, 20 February

Fact. 99% meh. I have 2 convos I am enjoying. The lingering convo with the composer and then this hot italian that I met leaving the bar at the LA vday meetup. ..

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  • redditkcupid
  • 5 Points
  • 01:27:56, 20 February

Let's go hiking.

  • [-]
  • Studninja
  • 2 Points
  • 01:40:44, 20 February

Tomorrow? !

  • [-]
  • redditkcupid
  • 2 Points
  • 01:43:44, 20 February

Yes.

  • [-]
  • Studninja
  • 2 Points
  • 02:02:54, 20 February

I am at work till 3!

  • [-]
  • redditkcupid
  • 2 Points
  • 02:53:42, 20 February

Word.

  • [-]
  • AlliterativeAlpaca
  • 0 Points
  • 06:17:26, 20 February

What just happened here? TEACH ME YOUR WAYS.

  • [-]
  • dubhthuathach
  • 2 Points
  • 04:32:56, 20 February

> recently I kinda let my depression dictate that I just don't want to meet anyone.

This sums up my dating experience perfectly.

  • [-]
  • ReturntotheHogLagoon
  • 28 Points
  • 01:08:05, 20 February

ITT: people with shit dating luck admitting to being shitty to people.

  • [-]
  • Banskyi
  • 9 Points
  • 01:45:37, 20 February

It's some of the same people that whine in other threads looking for attention because of their dating problems. Funny how that works.

My reaction to most of these: http://i.imgur.com/8519rhq.gif

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  • Multidisciplinary
  • 13 Points
  • 01:37:31, 20 February

Stunning lack of self-awareness here.

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  • blondedre3000
  • 3 Points
  • 01:12:49, 20 February

Exactly.

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  • samerina
  • 7 Points
  • 00:59:56, 20 February

I'm not emotionally available.

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  • redditkcupid
  • 6 Points
  • 01:27:37, 20 February

Not many people around here are, I think.

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  • samerina
  • 2 Points
  • 01:30:06, 20 February

I used to be.

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  • penguin_in_a_beret
  • 2 Points
  • 05:10:32, 20 February

As someone who is emotionally available, I wish this weren't true. Or at least, I wish the emotionally unavailable ones would be more upfront about it, to minimise the hurt of others.

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  • kteague
  • 3 Points
  • 06:21:49, 20 February

Walls can be torn down, icebergs of trust can be melted. It can be pleasurable to uncork someone who's been emotionally bottled up for far too long.

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  • penguin_in_a_beret
  • 3 Points
  • 07:01:58, 20 February

> It can be pleasurable to uncork someone who's been emotionally bottled up for far too long.

Indeed it can be. But I've done it far too often. Too often I've been told 'You're so easy to talk to', too often I've provided validation and confidence, too often I've torn down their walls, and given of myself - and I do it gladly, not out of pity, but out of genuine affection. To use a Dan Savage terminology, I keep one hell of a good campsite, and my friends and lovers have all commented that they are better off for having had me in their lives.

But while I give of myself gladly, I recognise that I need someone who can equally give of themselves. Ultimately I need someone with the inner strength to walk their path alone, in order that we can walk it together, and lean on each other as equals.

I love people for their complexities, their weaknesses, and their idiosyncracies. And I ask to be loved back the same way.

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  • CydeWeys
  • 1 Points
  • 03:37:41, 20 February

What does that really mean? You want sex with someone, but you won't make a deeper connection and expose your true thoughts?

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  • samerina
  • 1 Points
  • 05:22:04, 20 February

Not sexually available either. I want one person. He isn't ready yet. I keep thinking I am supposed to keep looking, but no one compares

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  • AlliterativeAlpaca
  • 1 Points
  • 06:19:10, 20 February

But I'm right here!

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  • Sharkattackr
  • 7 Points
  • 01:01:22, 20 February

I feel like you, OP, have something to share. Went pretty quickly from "have you pulled a fade?" To "have you slashed someone's tires after rejection?"

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  • caitRgator
  • 7 Points
  • 03:10:17, 20 February

Girls night in with my bestie... we were supposed to eat dinner and binge watch netflix. Instead, we got white girl wasted on wine in our sweat pants and we both start drunkenly messaging dudes on OKC. My friend invites a guy over WHILE we're still hanging out. Suddenly I was third wheeling on girls night...

Woke up with a terrible hangover, and had to do message damage control. (Apparently my standards are incredibly lower when I've had some red wine). I rarely drink, so I have almost no tolerance. :-/

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  • okcfattymcgee
  • 7 Points
  • 01:06:58, 20 February

I say that I'm cool with casual, but I'm not totally convinced I am. But I'm discovering that I also kind of have a fear of commitment, so...

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  • redditkcupid
  • 5 Points
  • 01:26:37, 20 February

I like to think I'm okay with casual dating, but I end up either liking them too much, or being too apathetic to bother to hang out with them when they want to.

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  • okcfattymcgee
  • 1 Points
  • 02:02:38, 20 February

I'm this way too. I think what makes it extra weird this time is that I actually think I have no problem with what we're doing and that scares me. I care about him, and I'd be super bummed if we stopped dating, but... meh.

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  • samerina
  • 0 Points
  • 01:13:52, 20 February

why are you afraidddddddddd. tell memeeee

  • [-]
  • okcfattymcgee
  • 1 Points
  • 02:03:27, 20 February

Buyer's remorse, FOMO, afraid of being vulnerable, take your pick.

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  • CensoryDeprivation
  • 6 Points
  • 01:21:41, 20 February

I've played it pretty straight so far - been honest about intentions, used protection, etc, but still, some nights I will hit the "Date eject button", and I tend to panic when women start edging over my weird invisible boundary lines. Call it emotional unavailability or what have you, I just get weirded out when they want more than I have resources for.

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  • redditkcupid
  • 2 Points
  • 01:26:08, 20 February

Examples being?

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  • CensoryDeprivation
  • 3 Points
  • 01:30:33, 20 February

I've gone on a good deal of dates with this girl who has made it clear she wants to "Go to pound town", but she also made it clear that doing so would basically indicate exclusivity. The prospect of having sex triggering some kind of automatic shift in social dynamics has basically caused me to hesitate completely. Irrational, maybe. Childish, possibly. Happening regardless?

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  • Broligarchy
  • 4 Points
  • 01:54:10, 20 February

Naw it's fair to hesitate then.

  • [-]
  • cleansed2w0
  • 11 Points
  • 03:43:07, 20 February

i'm just looking for dates because it passes the time until my ex comes back to me

  • [-]
  • TheDailySpank
  • 4 Points
  • 04:46:18, 20 February

Ooh, that's not healthy. Not healthy at all. :(

  • [-]
  • cleansed2w0
  • 4 Points
  • 04:50:01, 20 February

normally i'd be sad but i guess in this thread that counts as praise

  • [-]
  • okc_throwaway_nyc
  • 4 Points
  • 04:45:14, 20 February

Wooooooo this is the best one! I mean I know it's just a matter of time too. But ohmygod hurry up already right??

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  • cleansed2w0
  • 5 Points
  • 04:51:42, 20 February

exactly! and she always does the 4 A.M. "i'm depressed and going to cut myself and you're the only person who can make me feel better" phone call on the weekdays

  • [-]
  • okc_throwaway_nyc
  • 2 Points
  • 05:10:49, 20 February

Oh god. Sorry? As someone who wants to see true love- does she know?

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  • BreakingBurgers
  • 5 Points
  • 01:06:43, 20 February

I faked a pregnancy.

  • [-]
  • whatsanity
  • 2 Points
  • 01:14:18, 20 February

Why?

  • [-]
  • BreakingBurgers
  • 3 Points
  • 01:25:47, 20 February

Because I'm unstable

  • [-]
  • tardisblue76
  • 1 Points
  • 01:11:47, 20 February

I did this once when I was like, 18.

  • [-]
  • BreakingBurgers
  • 2 Points
  • 01:12:07, 20 February

I was 20.

  • [-]
  • blondedre3000
  • 3 Points
  • 01:14:03, 20 February

6 years ago is past the statute of limitations. You're going to have to come up with something else.

  • [-]
  • trustmeiamagirl
  • 1 Points
  • 01:23:42, 20 February

How'd that turn out for you?

  • [-]
  • BreakingBurgers
  • 4 Points
  • 01:25:19, 20 February

It kept the relationship going for another year

  • [-]
  • trustmeiamagirl
  • 3 Points
  • 01:28:57, 20 February

What happened when you obviously weren't pregnant? Or did you fake losing the baby, too?

  • [-]
  • BreakingBurgers
  • 5 Points
  • 01:45:22, 20 February

I faked a miscarriage

  • [-]
  • bony_boy
  • 9 Points
  • 02:13:31, 20 February

... wow.

  • [-]
  • okc_throwaway_nyc
  • 3 Points
  • 04:41:45, 20 February

......

  • [-]
  • volar92
  • 3 Points
  • 04:58:39, 20 February

What the fuck?

  • [-]
  • 2bABee
  • 1 Points
  • 04:55:47, 20 February

I'm going to believe your confession is a miscarriage for my own sanity.

  • [-]
  • puremensan
  • 1 Points
  • 09:34:02, 20 February

I'm going to upvote this but damn.

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  • ReachItOut
  • 5 Points
  • 02:07:30, 20 February

I found out I was talking to the same girl as someone else on this subreddit. Later that day, she texted me saying that she had to cancel our first date, but wanted to reschedule for next week. I declined her offer and explained that I would feel bad if things ended up working out for us.

Since she was only talking to the 2 of us at the time, it wasn't hard for her to figure out who the other person was. Unfortunately, the frustration seemed to make her immediately give up on this other guy as well. The timing of the fade happened within an hour of when she texted me.

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  • dubhthuathach
  • 5 Points
  • 04:47:36, 20 February

I hate how the expectation of someone fading on me, or telling me that they've decided to become more serious with another person whom they're seeing, makes me develop this thick hide. I feel as if I'm preventing myself from connecting with people, under the guise of not letting myself get hurt.

Because of chronic depression, I'll often lack the energy to go out and see people, which leads to communications becoming less and less frequent until one of us just stops contacting the other. I've faded or been faded on several times because of this.

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  • RiceKryspie
  • 5 Points
  • 04:59:02, 20 February

There was a guy that was being waaay too sexually pushy for my tastes, and even though I dropped clear hints I wasn't interested, he kept sending me messages. So I told him I was "saving myself for Jesus" and he finally backed off.

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  • penguin_in_a_beret
  • 5 Points
  • 05:04:27, 20 February

I worry that I'm going to meet all your archetypes and it'll tear me to shreds.

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  • MoreNutella
  • 5 Points
  • 05:18:37, 20 February

I've hidden 29,227 guys :/

It's become a weird hobby that keeps me from feeling disappointed that I'm interested in so few people when I log on.

Side benefit: really cuts down on the nonsense messages I get, though!

  • [-]
  • AlliterativeAlpaca
  • 5 Points
  • 06:20:24, 20 February

Whenever I'm on a message cold streak, I'll message a girl much less attractive than me just so I know what it feels like to get a response.

:(

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  • marysvevo
  • 4 Points
  • 06:06:32, 20 February

I've been seeing this girl for only a month and we're like super hard melting over each other but she's not ready for a relationship yet (big messy situation with her ex, whatever) and we've decided not to make things exclusive just yet. Last night I had a different girl over and made out with her and she was a really good kisser and I felt some feels but they can't compare to what I feel for the other girl. Texted other girl last night, she told me she had also gone on a date but it was meh. Not only do I feel fucking guilty for kissing someone else, but I also feel jealous.

Help.

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  • puremensan
  • 1 Points
  • 09:35:49, 20 February

Run.

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  • whatsanity
  • 5 Points
  • 01:16:15, 20 February

Went on a date with a girl even though I really don't want to be with a girl. Not sure if it's bad or not but I have mixed emotions on it.

Now if only men would start asking out maybe I'd have better stories for you.

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  • redditkcupid
  • 5 Points
  • 01:19:46, 20 February

I'm lying to everyone!

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  • ScaryCookieMonster
  • 3 Points
  • 01:35:22, 20 February

Even yourself?

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  • redditkcupid
  • 3 Points
  • 01:37:50, 20 February

Maybe.

  • [-]
  • orangefolders
  • 5 Points
  • 03:07:24, 20 February

I WILL SEX UP ALL THE LADIES IN HERE.

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  • chmbrs
  • 2 Points
  • 03:10:12, 20 February

I have a whole separate phone and number for dating so that I can cancel it when I find the right girl. I don't want some random text down the line to ruin my relationship.

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  • foolish_mortals
  • 4 Points
  • 03:34:18, 20 February

Ummm like physical phone? That's what Google Voice is for.

  • [-]
  • chmbrs
  • 2 Points
  • 04:04:47, 20 February

Oh? Tell me more.

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  • foolish_mortals
  • 3 Points
  • 04:43:26, 20 February

Google Voice

You request a number and have it linked to your phone and can easily block numbers or unlink/transfer the number to a different phone. It's been a lifesaver with online dating being what it is.

  • [-]
  • chmbrs
  • 2 Points
  • 04:46:39, 20 February

I'm Canadian :( Sorry.

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  • RunningFever
  • 2 Points
  • 06:37:37, 20 February

A Canadian apologizing... Typical

  • [-]
  • foolish_mortals
  • 1 Points
  • 04:51:25, 20 February

Oh no :[ that's a bummer

  • [-]
  • tardisbakerstreet
  • 2 Points
  • 04:04:04, 20 February

Agreed to go on a date with someone on there, and then started seeing someone IRL and told them I was really busy or something i don't remember.

We never went out, and the other guy and I barely speak anymore. Oh well....

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  • gel907
  • 2 Points
  • 04:12:06, 20 February

I have a guy that I've been talking to since Thanksgiving. I can't tell if I'm fading on him, or if he's fading on me. Or if we're both just that busy. We've met once (two weeks ago) and have had many conversations since.

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  • Thrillwaukee
  • 8 Points
  • 02:00:05, 20 February

ITT: Women getting patted on the back for fading.

  • [-]
  • snapperkeeper
  • 6 Points
  • 02:08:20, 20 February

Boo hoo.

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  • Thrillwaukee
  • 1 Points
  • 02:10:07, 20 February

Am I wrong? Tell me where anyone has done anything other than laugh with them or praise them?

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  • snapperkeeper
  • 8 Points
  • 02:12:47, 20 February
  1. I don't see any praise. More commiseration or grudging "Yeah, I've done that, too."
  2. I don't see any laughter.
  3. I see a couple people calling them out.
  4. This is a confession thread, not a "Here are my best and finest dating practices" thread. The point is to confess the shitty things you've done.
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  • Fromageball
  • 5 Points
  • 01:56:46, 20 February

I canceled(and broke it off) with a guy I was on the fence about at the last minute after he invited me to a restaurant that was close to him but a commute for me, and then 5 minutes later frantically texted me that he couldn't afford to go out and sent a screenshot of his bank balance of $6.57.

It was 3rd date and we had been splitting the tabs, and at first said I would get this one and he get the next...but then realized I didn't want to pay for him AND rope myself into another date.

I told him it really annoyed me that he would invite me to a restaurant when he didn't even know if he could afford his half...the bill with dinner/drinks/etc was probably going to be around $100(for both of us) and HOW DO YOU NOT KNOW YOU ONLY HAVE $6.57 IN THE BANK??? We're 30...too old for that shit.

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  • ANB614
  • 3 Points
  • 01:30:33, 20 February

I cancelled on a guy because I've been down about a few things (which is true). I told him we could reschedule when I'm feeling better... but I don't think I want to.

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  • redditkcupid
  • 7 Points
  • 01:37:32, 20 February

Yeah, that sucks. Because then you associate that person with how you were feeling when you cancelled the original date.

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  • ANB614
  • 3 Points
  • 04:24:53, 20 February

I just wasn't that into him before the schedule, so I just can't get the motivation.

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  • 2bABee
  • 3 Points
  • 04:41:48, 20 February

I still send out messages via OKC, just for the sake of sending messages. I had it down to an addictive little sudoku puzzle approach.

I also miss the thrill of frustrating spoiled little rich girls on first dates.

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  • PerpetualMotionApp
  • 2 Points
  • 05:03:28, 20 February

How do you frustrate them?

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  • 2bABee
  • 2 Points
  • 05:09:05, 20 February

Basically that I didn't go to Harvard, etc. and am not from a monied family like them.

  • [-]
  • PerpetualMotionApp
  • 2 Points
  • 05:13:45, 20 February

Oh, well that's sad that it frustrates them then. I thought you meant button pushing which would make sense

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  • MissMacaroni
  • 4 Points
  • 01:40:23, 20 February

I've set at least 10 dates this year and gone on zero of them.

I keep thinking I'll be okay to go outside and then it's so damn cold that I don't. But at least I cancel them!

  • [-]
  • 2bABee
  • 4 Points
  • 04:45:01, 20 February

You're a wuss.

Buy a better coat.

  • [-]
  • MissMacaroni
  • 1 Points
  • 05:41:17, 20 February

I'M COLD.

  • [-]
  • awkward_penguin
  • 2 Points
  • 06:32:36, 20 February

Move to California

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  • getonmalevel
  • 7 Points
  • 02:48:37, 20 February

How about not wasting those 10 guys' time? I don't care if I don't go on a date with someone, I do care if I spent more than one message talking with them if it ends with them flaking.

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  • MissMacaroni
  • 2 Points
  • 03:51:33, 20 February

Oh I'm sorry, was this not the confession booth/admit the things you know you're doing wrong thread? I must be in the wrong place.

  • [-]
  • getonmalevel
  • 8 Points
  • 03:55:19, 20 February

It is, but it's also a wonderful place to get judged; and I'm judging the fuck out of you :)

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  • MissMacaroni
  • 1 Points
  • 03:55:58, 20 February

It feels so nice, your judgement. I'll bail on tomorrow's date too and dedicate it to you.

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  • getonmalevel
  • 3 Points
  • 04:14:02, 20 February

I could say some mean shit and continue this reply chain, but if you honestly feel like taking time to setup dates, and flaking on them and ending up at your home on your couch is a productive use of your time, then go for it, I guess you're saving the guy a shitty date. Enjoy your Thursday!

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  • MissMacaroni
  • 1 Points
  • 05:40:49, 20 February

Thanks!!

(FYI- that was a joke. I am looking forward to tomorrow's date.)

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  • lokichilde
  • 3 Points
  • 02:59:43, 20 February

I joined about a month ago and have been on a tear ever since. Most of the women I dated at first were just because they showed interest. There are a couple i still occasional see from earlier. I need to break those off quickly before I hurt someone's feelings unfairly. After getting the hang of online dating, I'm starting to meet people I'm actually interested in, but while I'm waiting to see how those pan out, I'm setting up more dates. I need to slow down. I think I should have used a throwaway, but, fuck it.

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  • baykayk
  • 2 Points
  • 04:59:01, 20 February

A fellow male worker is on OKC. We take screen captures of ugly women and send them to each other. I try to feel guilty making fun of a 57yr old grandma with large jowls prominently displayed in a bad selfie but its just not working. My buddy is on POF also and has emailed me some real eye slammers.

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  • snatchbeast
  • 1 Points
  • 07:20:14, 20 February

There's a certain beauty to "eye slammers"

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  • doclaws99
  • 1 Points
  • 01:27:26, 20 February

I get faded on a lot, but recently faded on two girls. It was more of a "mutual fade". I've never not replied to a text I got from someone, so I think that's better than the standard fade. Or at least, that's what I keep telling myself.

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  • Duces_Tecum
  • 1 Points
  • 01:49:21, 20 February

Since my bar exam studying got into full swing - i.e. the month of February - I've faded on one girl, flat out cancelled dates (that I asked them on) with two others, and told a fourth I wouldn't see her again until after the bar. I feel like a horrible person.

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  • DirectiveNineteen
  • 4 Points
  • 03:38:39, 20 February

You're not. You're a studious, responsible person. This shit makes us all nuts.

I'm pretty sure I'm being faded on right now and I can't even muster the energy to care.

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  • CuddlesHucklebunny
  • 1 Points
  • 01:59:16, 20 February

I had sex with what later became my now former fwb on the second date. My bff had been lecturing me about putting out too soon so I lied to his face and on here because he knows my user name. Now, let's hope I drunkenly confessed at some point before now because if he reads this I am so getting lectured more.

I faded on a dude after we'd been having sex for a month and a half because I met someone more interesting. But he got a garbage can out of the deal so, I think that makes up for me fading, right?

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  • PerpetualMotionApp
  • 1 Points
  • 04:33:49, 20 February

Met up with a 41 year old, that was cool, only once but I guess it's for the better to keep it mostly in fantasy land. I have probably a disproportionate amount of crushes on early 40 year old dudes (dude I met up with was via okc, the crushes are imaginary or irl people)

  • [-]
  • kteague
  • 3 Points
  • 06:18:03, 20 February

41 year old dudes are so hot.

  • [-]
  • PerpetualMotionApp
  • 2 Points
  • 07:10:56, 20 February

haha. it takes a specific look/demeanor for me, I guess. Some of them also don't look all that old. Newest old dude crush is doug stamper.

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  • ScaryCookieMonster
  • 1 Points
  • 07:46:53, 20 February

Hell if it included the Frank Underwood drawl and charm, I'd go for a 41 year old dude.

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  • PerpetualMotionApp
  • 1 Points
  • 07:50:50, 20 February

Frank Underwood is totally supposed to be well past 40, in 50s-60s (Spacey is 54). Michael Kelly is 44. Yeeeee.

Also no joke, my older dude does kinda resemble Spacey a bit.

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  • PerpetualMotionApp
  • 1 Points
  • 04:37:35, 20 February

Another less saucy but more sad: whenever I'm activated on okc I seriously check the site way too fucking much. It takes some effort on my part to reply well to good messages, but seriously the neurosis over checking the stupid fucking site is really disgusting :(

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  • rawrokc
  • 1 Points
  • 05:41:22, 20 February

I've been on the site for well over a year now and only had the courage to meet two guys in person.

The first we went on one date that was horribly awkward because I had a stomach ulcer and was super tired, but we've remained friends. I've had strong feelings for him pretty much since then, and despite initiating sex with me many months into our friendship, he still wants nothing more than just friends.

The second guy was nearly a year ago, and I only went to hang out with him because he was moving out of state and it was kind of a "now or never" pressure situation. I figured why not, ended up having a short fling with him, but he had such a shitty personality so that sucked.

I've been too hung up on guy 1 and terrified of giving people a chance to do anything more, but I do like the attention from the messages. ._.

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  • realhumanscum
  • 1 Points
  • 06:00:58, 20 February

I keep pursuing more dates with people even though I don't really feel anything with them.

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  • misterducky
  • 1 Points
  • 07:01:58, 20 February

I used to keep a tally of how many women deleted their profiles after I messaged them, then I realized I couldn't prove cause and effect, and it was less fun.

I'm secretly hoping my sister had kids and I never meet anyone so I can be the cool single uncle with all the fun gadgets and electronics.

I'm totally comfortable with the idea of dating women ten years older than me on a personal level, but I don't even try because I'd worry about what society would think. As if the machinations of my dating life matter.

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  • luckynumber3
  • 1 Points
  • 07:43:30, 20 February

Probably somewhat tame, but back when I was still on the fence over whether or not to focus exclusively dating my now boyfriend I went on a date with this guy that was actually really fun. Well after the date he texts me saying he had a great time thought I was really pretty and cool and he wanted to see me again, and I kinda freaked out thinking he got attached too fast so I said I didn't feel the same and thought we should cut it off. I could've handled that way better.

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  • Ipobrihia
  • 1 Points
  • 08:15:32, 20 February

I get a lot of shit for this one because it involves stereotypes, but whatever. I'm a lesbian that could not be more turned off by the average lesbian. Dyed hair, rainbow accessories, degrees in Women's Studies/Psychology, and a general disinterest with conforming to societal norms.

I don't let my sexuality dictate every aspect of my life. Fuck me, right?

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  • diamondbuttz
  • 1 Points
  • 01:32:35, 20 February

I was trying to cancel on someone for last night in favor of a different dude I've banged before but the app stopped letting me send messages so I just deactivated my profile and hoped he got the message. We hadn't picked a place or anything yet, so I'm hoping he wasn't too mad.

I THEN WENT AND BANGED THE SHIT OUT OF THE OTHER DUDE

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  • naked_guy_says
  • 8 Points
  • 01:45:49, 20 February

He's probably mad

  • [-]
  • diamondbuttz
  • 1 Points
  • 02:04:55, 20 February

goddamnit

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  • blondedre3000
  • 1 Points
  • 01:07:44, 20 February

I seduced a girl that really digs me into doing all sorts of depraved things in my bedroom after discussing beforehand that we wouldn't have sex. It wasn't really my intention but things got insanely heated, and I really like her. I've also known her for almost 3 fucking months now.

  • [-]
  • samerina
  • 3 Points
  • 01:13:29, 20 February

Isn't that how things go ?

  • [-]
  • blondedre3000
  • 1 Points
  • 01:20:31, 20 February

No, usually it's more of a mutual fuckfest with very little seducing involved.

  • [-]
  • samerina
  • 2 Points
  • 01:22:35, 20 February

ohh see this is how things used to be for me.. very shy about that. needed lots of convincing.

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  • blondedre3000
  • 2 Points
  • 01:26:58, 20 February

She had gone a very, very, very long time just having casual sex and not sex with somebody she actually cares about. Timid to say the least. It was kind of refreshing though.

  • [-]
  • samerina
  • 1 Points
  • 01:33:33, 20 February

refreshing. Nice word

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  • trustmeiamagirl
  • 1 Points
  • 01:20:43, 20 February

Ah, coercion.

  • [-]
  • blondedre3000
  • 4 Points
  • 01:22:18, 20 February

More like conception.

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  • miki84
  • 1 Points
  • 02:48:19, 20 February

I have a fake account that is dedicated to a french bread and a type of knitting. It needs more puns.

I also forced my self on a dude once, really regret that one, but he made a raciest sexist comment that offended me personally.