I could never get into porn until I saw some gay porn. Is this a normal thing for women? (self.AskWomen)

50 ups - 11 downs = 39 votes

I'm a straight female but have never been a big porn person. The dynamic between males and females in straight porn is just this overbearing, obnoxious super passive/super aggressive dichotomy. The girl squeals all the time and is just generally annoying. Eight hours of blowjobs, blowjobs, blowjobs with no reciprocity.

So, anyway, I finally did take a pass at gay porn, and it's much better. The balance between the two actors is less absurd, and yeah, it's still tons of blowjobs but at least there is a male face in the picture and he is not practically crying mid-orgasm.

I don't mean to come off as "Oh, I'm so straight that chicks in porn is just the worst." But I can't really get over the fact that I'm watching porn when their experience doesn't mirror mine at all, and for whatever reason, I can't not put myself in her place when watching straight porn. So, suspending disbelief isn't happening.

In contrast, with gay porn, it's a lot easier coming to terms with being an observer of two hot guys being with each other. I also think they do a better job of having 'active sex' without it toeing this uncomfortably hostile line -- unless I'm the only person who doesn't understand why a good thrusting simply must be accompanied with "Yeah, bitch, you like that, HUH?!" For some reason, this is ubiquitous in porn dialogue (but thankfully absent from my own courting experience.)

Just me? Anyone else? For the same reasons or...?

19 comments submitted at 11:20:50 on Nov 10, 2013 by Twodudesohyeah

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  • nhremit
  • 27 Points
  • 11:34:50, 10 November

I'm into it just because I get more out of seeing a guy moan and orgasm rather than the usual focus on the woman in straight porn. I really hate it when I'm watching straight porn and they ZOOM IN on a woman's gaping vagina. I get super turned off and have to stop what I'm doing to fast forward through. I only enjoy the parts of porn that focus on how the guy feels. I even sometimes imagine having a dick. Haaa yeah.

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  • zanah0ria
  • 6 Points
  • 12:23:48, 10 November

Exactly. I'm not sure why that is so difficult to grasp. I like it for the same reasons that so many guys are into lesbian porn. Also, the actors in gay porn are much prettier in general.

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  • Poopkitty
  • 11 Points
  • 11:52:27, 10 November

I like penises. So gay porn is doublegood. Also, gay porn stars are often hot.

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  • sentinel32
  • 1 Points
  • 16:07:11, 10 November

I'm not a woman, but I can tell you that almost any porn interest is normal for any person, regardless of sex/gender. Your taste in porn doesn't necessarily reflect your taste in real life, and that's perfectly OK.

There are straight men who watch transgender porn, straight women who watch women orgasm, gay men who watch straight porn. One of the most common fantasies among women is a rape fantasy, but that doesn't mean those women actually want to be raped.

If you're not into the stereotypical straight porn, you might also want to look for "feminist porn", which generally focuses on a more genuine experience with a better balance between the partners and a bit more story/context than just "two people banging", and avoids being exploitative in filming - ie everyone involved does it because they want to and because they have an interest in the type of scene, not because it's their job and they're filling a contract (or worse).

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  • Jackthastripper
  • 1 Points
  • 13:57:04, 10 November

Straight dude here. I've seen some gay porn. The guys are boning each other, but dammit, they're doing it well!! I'm with /u/Jayman419 though; X-Art is where it's at.

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  • cathysaurus
  • 1 Points
  • 14:22:27, 10 November

Doesn't really seem weird. The way women are portrayed in porn is eyeroll-worthy at best, offensive at worst. We're not all super tan, giant breasted, bleach blondes with fake nails who scream like banshees. I can't even imagine attempting to get into something where the leading lady is unabashedly a caricature of women. Taking them out of the picture entirely seems like it would be a better experience, haha.

I wonder what the market is for heterosexual porn targeted toward women. Someone has to be making it, right? And if not, seems like there would be some money to be made there.

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  • jjscribe
  • 2 Points
  • 11:36:25, 10 November

the vast majority of my friends are like this, so I think it's much more common than expected haha

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  • celestialism
  • 1 Points
  • 14:00:08, 10 November

I've been into gay porn lately too. I don't question it. Your taste in porn isn't necessarily reflective of your real-life sexual tastes, so I say you should just like what you like and not worry about it.

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  • Milianxana
  • 1 Points
  • 16:07:23, 10 November

I didn't realize how sexy and erotic I found gay porn until I went to a male strip club with a friend several years ago. He had recently come out, wanted to go to the club, and he knew that I was a friend who wouldn't judge at all & enjoy it myself. So there we are, watching the handsome men on stage & getting table dances, and I find myself much more intrigued by the porn being shown on a couple of TVs. I couldn't help it. I thought about it for a while before deciding that it really didn't matter where I got my kicks. It turned me on, and that, really, was the only thing that mattered.

So, from my personal point of view, no... There's nothing wrong or even unusual about it. They're hot and sexy men enjoying one another which, in turn, makes me enjoy it so much more. And, the additional benefit is that my partner will enjoy me so much more. ;)

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  • jayman419
  • 4 Points
  • 11:50:32, 10 November

You should check out X Art... it's got some of the usual issues you've found with straight porn (like a lot of blowjobs) but at least there's faces in frame and reciprocity and occasionally even tenderness, and the sex consists of more than "choke her until I fuck this desensitizing creme off my dick".

EDIT: Link obviously NSFW, but thought I'd add the warning.

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  • myhonestyaccount
  • 1 Points
  • 15:53:03, 10 November

I always found the porn in X Art so contrived. I just stopped watching porn completely, but when I did, it was always amateur porn of couples.

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  • jayman419
  • 1 Points
  • 16:03:21, 10 November

Yeah sometimes it can be fake-y but compared to the other commercial stuff, it's at least a little better.

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  • succube-eprise
  • 3 Points
  • 11:50:28, 10 November

Interesting take.

I find straight mainstream porn uninteresting enough. But even the more sensual porn (they call it "erotica") out there that tries to do away with the mainstream clich├ęs is still so...formulaic, and so centered on performance, and shows so little of male pleasure (and while female pleasure is shown, it's a mere caricature), and still does so many things from mainstream porn that just ruin everything for me. And the guys and girls are so often so unattractive. And it's all so uninspired. So, the only thing to get out of it is the voyeurism, but that is simply not enough for me. And I don't really think sexy thoughts about someone I'm not in love with. I guess porn that'd get me going would have to be a "home video" of my boyfriend and myself.

Gay (or for that matter, lesbian) porn however, is even less interesting to me. If there isn't exactly one guy and one girl, then even the voyeuristic element will be missing. It's as unerotic to me as watching dogs mate. It does not even emotionally register as sex in my mind.

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  • lasiviously
  • 2 Points
  • 13:08:49, 10 November

You're definitely not alone. Gay porn is so hot!

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  • Ara854
  • 1 Points
  • 14:01:49, 10 November

I'm bi so straight porn appeals to me, as does gay porn. If I was straight I'd probably prefer gay porn because straight porn focuses so much on the girl. My straight friends do for this reason.

Gay porn is so awesome because the guys make noise. In straight porn they're always silent.

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  • GridReXX
  • 1 Points
  • 14:42:19, 10 November

Yeah... I'm so turned on by gay male porn and I think it's because both people appear so into it (also the guys generally look better). I feel the same about (good) lesbian porn. They just seem into it.

Essentially when the guys look gross and the girls look fake/like small town usa silicon strippers. I just can't get into it. Also the women in straight porn actually sound like they're not even pretending to sound like they're enjoying it. Because they are probably not. Just sounds/looks fake.

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  • GaetanDugas
  • 1 Points
  • 15:11:33, 10 November

You can watch M+F porn that isn't hostile "you fuckin like that?" porn.

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  • AngelBabyCakes104
  • 1 Points
  • 15:33:13, 10 November

Straight female here.

Oh dude! I use to love masturbating to gay porn. All the dicks and cum! I currently changed and have a new fetish that I'm embarrassed about but I totally can relate to the gay porn.

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  • velvejabbress
  • 1 Points
  • 16:23:04, 10 November

I like it too. I can watch pretty much any porn and be turned on by it, even the 'take it bitch' stuff, cos I tend to see it as acting. I enjoy rough sex as well, so watching it is a turn on for me. Saying that, I've found plenty of porn with guys focusing on the girl, which is nice, as that is now my experience. As for gay porn, it's great, it's sexy and the guys are hot, what's not to like?