[Update] I have been waiting 4 years to divorce my wife, but now she is dependent on me. (self.AskMen)
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First of all I want to thank all of you guys for letting me share my story. Seriously, just typing this all up made me feel much better and your responses all were nice to see.
So not much really happened I just wanted to share what happened I talked to my wife about our future.
I told my wife, that I am still planning on getting a divorce after our daughter leaves. She starts trying to guilt trip me, telling me that I need to forgive her and work towards building our relationship. She tells me that for the past 4 years she has been trying and I haven't been receptive. I told her that she was also the one that destroyed it in the first place so she isn't really doing anything noble.
I told her that I forgive her, but that doesn't make me love her again. I told her that the only reason I have any care for her is because she is the mother of my children. I told her that I'll make sure she is taken care of. Wife kept refusing telling me that we can make our marriage work, we can go to counseling again. I told her that my decision is final.
We talked about talking to our kids about the infidelity. We won't go into details on who the other man was, but that they are old enough to understand why we are splitting up. Our son is coming back for Thanksgiving break and hopefully then we can discuss it together as a family.
We also talked about future arrangements, we talked about selling the house. Wife didn't want to do that, but I told her that there is no point in having a big house if she is going to be the only one living it. She stated that this was our family's house and she doesn't want to give that up. We talked about physical therapy and what independence she might have in the future. I asked her if ___ (the guy she cheated on me with) would be interested in taking care of her. She got really mad at me yelled, and then we went to bed.
I don't know just after reading the post and writing this I am in a good mood. There are some other things I didn't mention in the previous thread. First of all I do have somewhat of a plan after I divorce my wife. There is this woman I met through my work, she works at a Satellite office in the U.K. I plan on meeting with her soon after the divorce. I met her about 8 months ago or so.
We don't share sexual conversations we just talk online mainly and I confide to her about my marriage. I don't know if we are going to form a relationship, she is much younger than me, doesn't have nearly any of the baggage I have, but she has been receptive when it comes to talking to me. So that's something I have to look forward to.
Thanks again guys. I will probably post another update after Thanksgiving.
107 comments submitted at 16:59:18 on Nov 11, 2013 by throwaway2134241