I'm alone and miserable on Valentine's Day - AMA (self.casualiama)

{casualiama}

14 ups - 29 downs = 0 votes

I tried to make plans with friends and so far nothing's come through and doesn't look likely.

I hate this holiday and everything related to it. It makes me feel like a miserable shit each time and I'm never better for it. If I could remove one holiday, it's Valentine's day.

47 comments submitted at 20:03:10 on Feb 14, 2014 by JTHipster

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  • Homsar98
  • 7 Points
  • 20:05:55, 14 February

Remember it's not a real holiday. It's just a way for companies to sell shit loads of chocolate and flowers. Also what is your favourite colour?

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  • JTHipster
  • -2 Points
  • 20:22:38, 14 February

Oh god no fuck that entire part of it. I don't like it, it's fake. That's not what it's about.

I like giving gifts to people, and I honestly like going out and doing stuff even if there's no point to it. Having one day of the year that says "today is a day you should do something romantic" is cheap. It's hollow, it takes a moment that could be wonderful and makes it manufactured, and that's the opposite of how I want to live or how I want to treat other people. To me, it's the anti-life, it and everything else like it.

And my favorite color is lavender. I was told I look good in it.

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  • 17 Points
  • 20:51:42, 5 March

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  • -14 Points
  • 21:37:38, 5 March

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  • 9 Points
  • 23:11:09, 5 March

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  • sjaminei
  • 7 Points
  • 20:07:37, 14 February

Why are you miserable? Go get some booze/drugs and get happy! You can make new friends ;)

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  • JTHipster
  • -10 Points
  • 20:18:53, 14 February

Met a really rad girl, she has a boyfriend. All my plans fell through for today (including go to the bar), so I feel bad from that because I was actually looking forward to going out to a bar with friends tonight.

I'm just very lonely, even though I talk to people. It's not really a lot of genuine friendships, and mostly because those haven't been built yet, but doesn't really help the lonelyache. Other stuff on top of that, but that's what's happening immediately.

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  • vikingpenguin
  • 1 Points
  • 20:46:14, 14 February

Go to the bar anyway. I heard single girls will be especially receptive tonight.

Are you going to buy all the discounted chocolate tomorrow?

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  • JTHipster
  • -1 Points
  • 20:55:10, 14 February

No, I've grown to like sweets less and less. And I probably will. I just don't like going places alone, makes me feel like a creeper.

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  • vikingpenguin
  • 1 Points
  • 19:11:14, 18 February

Follow up! Did you end up going out?

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  • JTHipster
  • -1 Points
  • 20:10:41, 18 February

Yep. It was okay.

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  • sjaminei
  • 1 Points
  • 20:34:03, 14 February

Go to the fucking bar and get drunk. You won't regret it, unless you get pissed ;)

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  • ArttuH5N1
  • 0 Points
  • 20:54:07, 14 February

I don't know man. Going to a bar alone is horrible IMO. I wouldn't recommend it to people who are nearly as shy as me. But if OP is even a bit confident, then it might just be the wise thing to do.

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  • JTHipster
  • -1 Points
  • 20:57:01, 14 February

I'm confident when I'm not miserable. I dunno, fuck it, I'll clean my room and head out at like...10 or so. Seems like a reasonable time.

Worst case I'll chat it up with the bartender.

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  • ArttuH5N1
  • 0 Points
  • 21:06:29, 14 February

Right on! You make a great point. What's the worst that could happen? Best case, you'll find the things you're looking for. (Some company, maybe a nice girl, who knows.) Worst case? You don't And what have you lost, if the "worst" happens? Nothing.

I'm genuinely happy for you.

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  • JTHipster
  • -5 Points
  • 21:13:09, 14 February

Well I'd lose about 30 dollars in a bar tab and gain some weight from the beer. But I can manage that.

Also the gym is closed here so I feel terrible because I was starting back up my workout schedule again.

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  • 0 Points
  • 23:43:47, 5 March

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  • 0 Points
  • 23:44:07, 5 March

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  • reichenbacchus
  • 2 Points
  • 20:09:44, 14 February

I think it is an overrated marketing scheme. Be happy that you are not giving into it! Besides, if you had plans then who would I be talking to on reddit right now? Also, I second Homsar98. What is your favorite color? I like turquoise.

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  • JTHipster
  • -6 Points
  • 20:25:59, 14 February

Like I said to him, lavender. And I'm actually not a fan of talking online. I don't know anything about you. How can what we say really have any significance if I don't understand where it comes from?

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  • reichenbacchus
  • 1 Points
  • 21:15:39, 14 February

A kind comment at random can be more significant the a shallow relationship in person. Just saying~

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  • JTHipster
  • -4 Points
  • 21:18:29, 14 February

Mmmm. Perhaps. I tend not to have shallow anything, though, or at least I don't enjoy it. I don't understand the desire for just having people to say sweet nothings to.

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  • 5 Points
  • 23:43:30, 5 March

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  • 21:29:34, 5 March

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  • JTHipster
  • -9 Points
  • 21:37:27, 5 March

Lol.

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  • 2 Points
  • 21:49:14, 5 March

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  • JTHipster
  • -5 Points
  • 21:53:49, 5 March

Sorry I was choking myself and jerkin it to horse porn.

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  • [deleted]
  • 5 Points
  • 22:41:30, 5 March

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  • JTHipster
  • -11 Points
  • 22:47:06, 5 March

Personally, I only like to fuck people who match my alpha status, which is why I exclusively sleep with men. Two muscled, oily men are the only way to naturally express our dominant natures in unison. A woman can just never match that for me.

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  • DesertSeahawk
  • 3 Points
  • 23:49:06, 5 March

Again, not here to judge, but I'd rather meet a new girl than be alone on valentines day. This, in direct contrast to meeting a "rad girl with a boyfriend".

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  • hama-girl
  • 1 Points
  • 20:19:13, 14 February

Valentine's is totally stupid consumerism crap.

I hate it- and I'm actually in a relationship! Having an obligatory romantic evening takes every iota of the romance out of it- if it's forced, then it's not real.

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  • JJKeys
  • 0 Points
  • 20:27:49, 14 February

Join the club

What you listening to at the moment?

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  • kingtut-21
  • 0 Points
  • 22:59:55, 14 February

Same here man. I just got broken up with too. Feels bad.

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  • JTHipster
  • -5 Points
  • 23:00:59, 14 February

Oh dude like right now? That's rough.

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  • kingtut-21
  • 1 Points
  • 23:04:26, 14 February

Yep. Home alone on Valentines after your girlfriend of over 1 and a 1/2 years breaks up with you and all of your friends are out or busy. It blows.

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  • JTHipster
  • -5 Points
  • 23:07:34, 14 February

Jesus. Most I can offer is my sympathies, or if you're by Cincinnatti I'll take you out for a drink or two. That's rough man.

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  • kingtut-21
  • 1 Points
  • 23:14:32, 14 February

Well I don't want to bum you out since this is your AMA. At least you're not the only one feeling down today.

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  • JTHipster
  • -5 Points
  • 23:17:44, 14 February

Nah man it's fine, I just want to talk to people.

The vast majority of the conversations I have these days are people complaining about their professor, or jobs, or sports, and I can't possibly care. No substance.

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  • kingtut-21
  • 1 Points
  • 23:31:33, 14 February

Yah I know what you mean. Well I just finished watching the Usual Suspects. It had kind of a mind fuck ending which made me happy. Would recommend watching if you have Netflix

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  • JTHipster
  • -3 Points
  • 23:33:16, 14 February

I do, and I'll have to watch it, maybe tomorrow. If you're feeling bad, listen to some Amanda Palmer. She's pretty rad. And I'd also recommend watching Super Troopers again.

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  • kingtut-21
  • 1 Points
  • 23:38:38, 14 February

Love that movie. And it's not a bad idea. Thanks for the tip. I think I am gonna start watching it right now.