Have any of you never cheated and have never been cheated on? I'm almost 26 years old, and the older I get, the more I realize majority of the women I've met/know have at least cheated once (though the men are just as bad, my question is specifically for women). (self.AskWomen)

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135 ups - 50 downs = 85 votes

284 comments submitted at 22:10:21 on Mar 6, 2014 by simp_fan

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  • lostinstjohns
  • 34 Points
  • 00:39:01, 7 March

You know what? I'm going to answer this so truthfully it hurts. I have a ridiculously high sex drive, and sometimes it clouds my decisions in terrible ways. I cheated in my last relationship. It was long distance, and I was lonely. I slept with my best friend more times than I can count. I never told my boyfriend, but I think he kind of knew all along. His worst fear and trigger was being cheated on. I used to tell him that my friend and I were exploring the island I was living on, but in reality I was on my back getting plowed continuously. I loved my boyfriend a lot, but he would never understand my need for physical affection, so I didn't tell him. It wasn't just my best friend that I slept with either.. I slept with probably 5 or 6 different people in about a 5 month time frame. Some I knew, some I didn't. There were 2 guys that I don't even remember their names.

I think that there is a good probability that my ex boyfriend may look at my reddit account from time to time, and darling, If you see this, I'm sorry. You knew I wasn't cut out for monogamy, but I really did love you.

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  • sprobby
  • 35 Points
  • 03:20:45, 7 March

That was painful to read. My philosophy is that if I were in an LDR and they wanted to cheat, then just break up with me first.

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  • [deleted]
  • 12 Points
  • 05:36:15, 7 March

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  • sprobby
  • 8 Points
  • 07:43:31, 7 March

You know, it would really really suck to have that happen in general, but if they were just straight-up with me and said that they wanted to sleep with other people, then fine. Thanks for telling me that before you went and did it.

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  • simp_fan
  • 1 Points
  • 04:09:07, 7 March

exactly!

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  • lhbruen
  • 50 Points
  • 01:36:59, 7 March

I respect you for your honesty, but goddamn, that's fucked up.

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  • lostinstjohns
  • 21 Points
  • 01:43:57, 7 March

Ask and you shall receive, right? It's nothing but brutal honesty.

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  • [deleted]
  • 7 Points
  • 01:50:32, 7 March

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  • lostinstjohns
  • 7 Points
  • 01:55:14, 7 March

So judgey. I don't think it has anything to do with maturity. Making mistakes and learning from them? Definitely. But learning that I am more comfortable in non exclusive relationships is what's key here for me.

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  • DAM1313
  • 22 Points
  • 03:50:58, 7 March

learning from mistakes you and others have made is practically the definition of maturing.

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  • [deleted]
  • -11 Points
  • 02:02:34, 7 March

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  • [deleted]
  • 3 Points
  • 03:24:58, 7 March

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  • [deleted]
  • -1 Points
  • 03:42:52, 7 March

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  • susiedotwo
  • 6 Points
  • 09:15:07, 7 March

I think it's bizarre that we, as humans, find cheating so surprising and deplorable. Thanks for your contribution to this thread and for your honesty, I don't find it particularly pleasant, but I can easily see how a person could end up in your situation. I believe you when you say you loved him. We hurt the ones we love the most.

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  • chuzwuzzer
  • 5 Points
  • 10:45:16, 7 March

Wow, everyone's really on their high horse about your commrnt

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  • lostinstjohns
  • 2 Points
  • 11:51:29, 7 March

Yup.. You should see the messages. It's ridiculous.

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  • kittenwithscurvy
  • 22 Points
  • 03:54:41, 7 March

Just want to say that I'm sorry for how shitty everyone is being to you for honestly answering the question. I appreciate the insight you provided and don't think you're a bad person.

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  • lostinstjohns
  • 6 Points
  • 04:03:10, 7 March

Thanks. I appreciate it!

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  • SCphotog
  • 1 Points
  • 12:43:56, 7 March

Putting another person at risk for disease, is I think...being a bad person. All the other issues aside, you just can't do that to people, and someone that it's claimed she cared about/loved ?

A one time mistake is one thing... but continuosly over time, that's pretty fucked up.

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  • timdrakeredrobin
  • 7 Points
  • 07:29:35, 7 March

Its interesting how much hate you are receiving for being honest Lostinstjohns since there is a thread in askwomen where a question about where do women get judged more then men. Seeing everyone else replies confirms, women are hated on more when they are the cheaters. Just my observation.

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  • Djesam
  • 9 Points
  • 04:41:23, 7 March

I too sense a lack of remorse, but I'll spare you my opinion. Props for being honest if nothing else.

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  • simp_fan
  • 25 Points
  • 01:27:27, 7 March

That last line, honestly, if I were him, would have driven me through the roof. You can't do such a despicable act and tell the person "I really did love you." That's like salt in the wound...

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  • kittenwithscurvy
  • 16 Points
  • 03:52:41, 7 March

Who are you to decide what's despicable? I don't understand why you would ask this question if you didn't want honest answers.

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  • simp_fan
  • -8 Points
  • 04:01:53, 7 March

> on my back getting plowed continuously

I wanted honest answers, but that line practically makes it a joke, like she had no remorse for her actions.

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  • kittenwithscurvy
  • 16 Points
  • 04:12:17, 7 March

Again, who are you to decide if she feels remorse? She said "I'm going to answer this so truthfully it hurts" and "I'm sorry," which both indicate remorse, but you're going to pick a different sentence to determine that for some reason. Makes no sense.

Double again, if you didn't want to hear stories from people who've cheated, why ask the question?

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  • KissMyAxeAndStaff
  • 14 Points
  • 04:34:38, 7 March

There's a difference between being honest, and saying it in a way that's beyond hurtful. She knows he might check her reddit, and chose to say it in a way that rubs salt in the wound. Just because she said sorry, doesn't make what she said any better. It's like saying "No disrespect", then immediately saying something disrespectful.

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  • kittenwithscurvy
  • 6 Points
  • 04:39:36, 7 March

I'm not trying to say no one should have a problem with what she said. I don't, but you're completely entitled to have a different opinion. The issue I have is with OP commenting back and telling her she's despicable and then deciding (without legitimate cause) that she feels no remorse. She's not despicable, it seems to me like she DOES feel remorse, and regardless of both it was incredibly rude. There are ways to voice disagreement without insulting people and that's what I have a problem with, not the fact that he was disagreeing.

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  • KissMyAxeAndStaff
  • 3 Points
  • 04:59:22, 7 March

The way she said it would of been fine if she knew he wouldn't see it. It actually would of described it perfectly on how she knew it was deplorable. The fact is she said it in a way that would make it hurtful knowing full well he might see it. That is the evidence the says she's not all that remorseful. If she was remorseful this would of been said with a bit more tact because she knew he would see it.

Now I will say that this guy shouldn't be reddit stalking a girl that cheated on him numerous times. If it were me, I'd be re-validating my self-worth by making other women orgasm. With consent, of course.

Short Story: I agree, no point in him insulting her. At the same time I do agree that her actions/words are not in line with some who feels bad about what they had done.

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  • Autumn89
  • 1 Points
  • 13:35:47, 7 March

Reddit is sooo weird. We will flip shit if a cheater admits to cheating while in a relationship, but if they talk about it after the fact, people defend them, their words, and actions. I'm...so confused.

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  • lostinstjohns
  • 1 Points
  • 01:31:05, 7 March

If the physical proximity had been there, none of it would have transpired. He fulfilled my emotional needs, but couldn't fill the physical ones.

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  • simp_fan
  • 8 Points
  • 03:55:11, 7 March

If you truly loved this guy, and you suspect he even had the slightest chance of reading your comment, and to even go as far as ambiguously calling him out, why in the world would you mention "getting plowed continuously," or even mention that there were people you didn't even know the name of? An honest response to this post was all I could ask for, but your comment was so disrespectful to that guy, a guy you say you really loved, I have no reason or desire to consider you a decent person. Personally, I think you did the guy a favor by ending that relationship.

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  • [deleted]
  • 6 Points
  • 04:09:11, 7 March

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  • simp_fan
  • -6 Points
  • 04:09:38, 7 March

Clearly

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  • [deleted]
  • 3 Points
  • 04:12:15, 7 March

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  • InfinitelyThirsting
  • 3 Points
  • 05:39:33, 7 March

You're a virgin. You either don't have the opportunity to sleep with people, which she did, or you don't have an extremely high sex drive, at least not in comparison to some people.

I'm sorry you're lonely, and I'm not trying to be mean, but it's not a comparable situation. If it's a lack of choice, that's like saying "There are starving children in Africa who stay thin, how dare you break your diet and eat that cake that someone else gave you!!"

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  • Matthew11g
  • 1 Points
  • 05:56:38, 7 March

It is a conscious choice. I'm in college, surrounded by thousands of young, attractive women. Most of which are experimenting sexually. If I put in a decent amount of effort, I could have sex. I have chosen not to because I wish to share sex only with someone I love. I have found someone that I love, but she is in another state. I choose to willingly wait for her, or if things don't work out in the long run, other women that I do love. My being a virgin is not because I can't have sex, it's because I have chosen not to. My point is that with a little willpower I have avoided having sex besides having a high sex drive (I regularly masturbate 3 times a day, often more). The reason I judge the OPs actions is because she chose fleeting physical pleasure over her boyfriends emotions, and justified it by saying that she loved him and was lonely. She used him, and tossed him away because he was inconvenient. I'm freakin' lonely, and you don't see me cheating on my long distance girlfriend despite wanting sex constantly.

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  • InfinitelyThirsting
  • 6 Points
  • 06:28:18, 7 March

It's also a lot easier to abstain from something you've never had. Just saying. You know what your masturbation drive is, not your sex drive. My ex would masturbate every day, usually more than once, but he only actually wanted to actually have sex about twice a week (and that wasn't just us, I knew him for years first and that's how he was with everyone).

You also care about love being involved in sex, so you obviously have a very different viewpoint and drive. I'd rather skip a meal than eat really shitty food, and go out of my way to make sure it doesn't happen, but my best friend will chow down on anything that's around, even Walmart popcorn chicken. Most people would rather eat food than not, but if it's not up to my standards, I really genuinely wouldn't. You don't want to have sex without love, and that's fine, but it sets you apart from people who just want sex, period.

You can call it fleeting all you want, but so is a meal, and yet a starvation diet isn't a good or easy thing. If it's only a little willpower for you, then you just aren't on the same page. It infects my whole mind if I go too long without sex. I get visibly jittery, and my personality changes. The difference after I have sex, or when I'm having sex regularly, is big. People have commented on it, it's that strong.

It's like the difference between an introvert and an extrovert. An introvert still needs and wants friends, but just in a different way from an extrovert. A monogamous person ignoring a nonmonogamous person with a high sex drive's needs is like an extrovert constantly dragging an introvert out to parties. It's never going to be a good time.

She didn't toss him away, and it had nothing to do with inconvenience. It's about a deep-seated incompatibility based on circumstance. I can stay monogamous in a healthy relationship, but if it's long-distance, it's open or it's not happening. Love and sex are not tied together for me that way. It can be just as casual as going out for dinner with friends. My love is wayyy more powerful than sex, and sex will never change it any more than anything else. Unfortunately a lot of people try to insist that love means monogamy, no matter what, and that causes a lot of problems.

Did she do the right thing? No. But it's a really hard thing to love someone in a situation like that. You don't get to tell someone that their feelings aren't real just because they have different choices than you do. I've learned my lesson, and would never get into a long-distance relationship again, much less a strictly monogamous one. Hell, I don't want to be in a strictly monogamous relationship, period. Functionally, sure--I hate condoms, and like not having diseases. But having sex with someone just isn't something to break up over, for me. I understand that it is for a lot of people, but on that deep-seated level, it just doesn't make any sense. I just don't care about fidelity, at all, so it's hard to empathise with people who do.

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  • TheFryHole
  • -1 Points
  • 07:09:31, 7 March

you should focus more on the whole "you can't really know your actual sex drive until you have sex" point. Because honestly lots of things change in your mind after you have sex and get it on the regular.

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  • lostinstjohns
  • 5 Points
  • 04:14:54, 7 March

You don't have the right to judge me. Everyone has their own value set. I'm not proud of what I did, at all, but I have come to terms with it, and I'm not going to beat myself up over something I can't change.

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  • [deleted]
  • 20 Points
  • 05:05:46, 7 March

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  • lostinstjohns
  • -4 Points
  • 05:07:39, 7 March

I have remorse. Lots of it. But thank you for assuming that I don't.

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  • sociallydeclined
  • 6 Points
  • 06:43:59, 7 March

You sound like a Jerry Springer Show guest.

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  • TheFryHole
  • 2 Points
  • 07:07:51, 7 March

Well I was on the fence about everything until you said this. And it hit me that she does sound like that. Exactly like that. But I'm not gonna jump on the hate train. A lot of gray area exists in all of this stuff.

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  • bikesboozeandbacon
  • 2 Points
  • 05:35:19, 7 March

Serious question. What if your future boyfriend or husband goes on a long trip for work? Will you cheat then? Or is it in certain non-serious circumstances? Should guys fear your loyalty?

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  • skitterbump
  • 12 Points
  • 06:01:46, 7 March

The OP said they're not cut out for monogomy, it's possible she will only be with someone who also is comfortable with an open relationship.

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  • lostinstjohns
  • 4 Points
  • 06:06:15, 7 March

I wouldn't be in a relationship with anyone that would want exclusivity

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  • [deleted]
  • -2 Points
  • 04:27:16, 7 March

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  • chelbski-willis
  • 13 Points
  • 05:09:06, 7 March

She literally just said she's not proud of what she'd done and she learned from it. Where are you not seeing the remorse?

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  • sehrah
  • 1 Points
  • 08:27:16, 7 March

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  • skyclown
  • 1 Points
  • 03:44:03, 7 March

I'm a guy and think that's fair comment.

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  • chelbski-willis
  • 12 Points
  • 05:14:04, 7 March

Your post is beautifully honest and, yeah, a little heartbreaking. The people who are freaking out didn't really read your post. They just saw hurt and sex, which is probably what they usually read into everything they see. They didn't read the words, the reality, the mistakes, the love, the confusion. You're holding yourself up well against the barrage of shamers. I'm glad you're in a better place now.

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  • lostinstjohns
  • 4 Points
  • 05:20:44, 7 March

Thank you

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  • [deleted]
  • 3 Points
  • 13:11:56, 7 March

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  • lostinstjohns
  • 1 Points
  • 13:23:59, 7 March

A question was asked, and I answered it. Apparently it's important enough to you, a stranger, to nit pick every little thing I wrote. In case you haven't noticed, everyone here already thinks I'm shit because of it, why would you even feel the need to repeat that? It's just redundant. Now, if you could stop attacking me that would be great.

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  • kidkvlt
  • 1 Points
  • 14:34:44, 7 March

Don't personally attack users for answering a question that was asked of them. That is unacceptable here.

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  • sociallydeclined
  • -3 Points
  • 03:37:54, 7 March

I don't think it's fair of you to say you loved your boyfriend if you were sleeping around and lying.

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  • lostinstjohns
  • 10 Points
  • 03:40:14, 7 March

I don't think it's fair that you get to decide what my feelings are based on a couple of actions that I have made.

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  • adga77
  • 7 Points
  • 05:03:10, 7 March

A couple actions? You slept with 5-6 other guys probably more than once how is that just a couple actions? I'm not trying to bash you or anything, you were being honest, but I'm, and I think others, having trouble understanding your remorse based off your choice of words here knowing perfectly well your ex knows your Reddit name and might see this comment. Pretty insensitive.

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  • sociallydeclined
  • 4 Points
  • 03:46:31, 7 March

I'm not deciding what your feelings are at all. If you felt you loved him, than that is your perception of "love", but doing what you did would be considered disrespectful among other things and any kind of love needs respect.

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  • InfinitelyThirsting
  • 7 Points
  • 05:40:44, 7 March

Monogamy is not the measure of love. For those of us who are not innately monogamous, it's not a matter of respect, but of differing morals.

Lying still isn't great, but honestly, it can feel sometimes like dating a vegetarian, and eating meat on the side. They care about meat, but you just don't. You wouldn't care if they ate meat, and you don't really see what the big deal is about eating meat, and you can't help but still like eating meat, and "what they don't know isn't going to hurt them" is a lot more realistic and honest than trying to fake someone else's morals.

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  • megasloth
  • 4 Points
  • 06:42:45, 7 March

So you're basically saying it's better to lie to someone else than it is to lie to yourself?

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  • InfinitelyThirsting
  • 2 Points
  • 06:49:25, 7 March

No. But when faced with lying to someone else, or being absolutely miserable for months at a time, it's understandable that lying to someone else seems like the better option.

It's better not to lie at all, but there's a lot of pressure from society to lie and act like monogamy and love are the same thing. That gets really hard to maintain when you aren't particularly monogamous and also aren't able to have sex with your partner. There's a reason it's called a sex drive, not a sex occasional whim, you know?

My point is just that you can love someone, even sometimes if you've cheated on them. Not always, but sometimes.

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  • megasloth
  • 1 Points
  • 07:00:14, 7 March

That's an incredibly selfish thing to say though. You may love the other person, but that doesn't mean they'd love you back if they knew you had cheated on them. Relationships are based on both physical and emotional needs. If your partner does not satisfy those needs, regardless of how far away they are, you should let them know and try to work it out. If your partner can deal with you sleeping with other people while you're apart (which is unlikely), more power to you. If you can't work it out, then you break up and find someone else who will fulfill those needs. You people are making it sound like it's okay to cheat in a long-distance relationship just because you want it; you aren't even taking into account the other person's feelings.

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  • InfinitelyThirsting
  • 1 Points
  • 07:18:09, 7 March

That's changing the argument, though. It doesn't mean they'd still love you if they knew, true, but that wasn't the point. The point was about whether or not she loved him.

It's not about justifying cheating, because I completely agree that you should be open or break up. It's strictly about being able to love someone despite cheating in a long-distance relationship. People were saying it's utterly impossible, and that's utter bullshit.

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  • sociallydeclined
  • -2 Points
  • 06:31:25, 7 March

I took the morals of monogamy into account but there is still a lot more to it then just that. If you're taking away trust, respect, (some sort of) commitment, communication, and depth out of love, than you just have your own version of lust. Cheating and lying multiple times, and knowing that your SO is offended by this, takes a lot of this away.
I'm going to from stem from your analogy. I have a friend who is a vegetarian and her boyfriend absolutely eats meat, and she is perfectly fine with that. She wouldn't mind cooking him bacon and sausages on a good day, but it's uncomfortable for her to even kiss him if he's finished that same meal and he knows that. Both of them understand this about each other. Otherwise, you can't expect clarity in a relationship with unestablished morals.
edit: a word

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  • InfinitelyThirsting
  • 5 Points
  • 06:44:57, 7 March

They were long-distance, though. Not having sex, so there was no health risks (I cannot abide cheaters who put their SO's health at risk without warning them). And he never found out, she never told him. It's very different from eating a sausage in front of your vegetarian girlfriend and then going over and kissing her.

Again, I'm not defending the lying. But there doesn't have to be a complete lack of respect, in her situation. You can not respect one aspect of a person, or one opinion they have, while still loving them. It's a mistake, but it doesn't invalidate love.

Personally, I think it's really disrespectful and insecure to demand fidelity from someone when you are physically incapable of meeting their needs. It seems as ridiculous as forbidding someone to eat anything except meals you cooked, even when you're hundreds of miles apart and you aren't going to see them for months. You really think it's fair to ask someone to starve for months? It's one thing if you're at least there, putting food on the table, but seriously.

This is why I say it's a matter of different morals. It's a do unto others sort of thing--I genuinely don't care about fidelity. When you would be fine with your partner doing the same thing, it's hard to keep telling yourself that it matters, because to you, it really doesn't. And eventually you reach a breaking point and have a snack, because it's just unrealistic.

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  • sociallydeclined
  • 1 Points
  • 06:57:46, 7 March

They were long distance but he also had his own doubts. At the end of the day after her stride of infidelity, she was going back to him. This is what I meant by my analogy.
Yes, people can't measure the amount of respect or lack of, but a lot of her actions sum up to a general lack of respect for him. Going into the relationship well aware that he is insecure about fidelity and doing those actions hits on a lot more than just "one aspect" or "one opinion".
There is a difference between demanding fidelity and your own set of morals. There are men out there who have no problem with polygamous women. That being said, it is really disrespectful and naive to go into a relationship with someone well aware they believe in a fully monogamous relationship if you do not relate. I do recognize that they broke up and that she realized she was not suitable for that kind of relationship, which is the better part. I also think that using all of these food-like analogies is simplifying this way more. A person's relationship with food is not the same as a person's relationship with another person.
I'm not downplaying polygamy, by the way, but love constructed in any relationship (polygamous, monogamous, platonic, family) has its bounds.

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  • zfolwick
  • 1 Points
  • 15:22:07, 7 March

Have you every seen Black Snake Moan

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  • suddenlysomnolent
  • 1 Points
  • 14:24:56, 7 March

It would have been more sincere if you didn't qualify it with "I have a ridiculously high sex drive."

I am hypersexual as a result of my bipolar and I still haven't cheated. I've jerked off for hours until I've bled, crying through it the whole time because I just. Couldn't. Stop. My husband and I fuck until we're covered in blisters and it stings when I pee. He's been deployed 4 times in our marriage and even when I was alone, I never cheated.

I'm not bragging, I'm just discrediting your excuse. You did it because you wanted to, not because you needed to.

*EDIT: I commend you for answering truthfully despite the backlash you knew you were going to get. But if you are going to do something, at least be honest with yourself about your motives.

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  • lostinstjohns
  • 1 Points
  • 14:35:20, 7 March

Because no one is allowed to have different experiences in life, right?

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  • suddenlysomnolent
  • 1 Points
  • 14:46:33, 7 March

I have yet to see a situation where someone was forced to cheat. Don't rationalize your decisions by acting like they were beyond your control. You wanted it, you did it. Big deal.

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  • lostinstjohns
  • 1 Points
  • 14:51:18, 7 March

I didn't say I was forced.

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  • suddenlysomnolent
  • 1 Points
  • 14:52:08, 7 March

Then you did it because you wanted to. What's the big deal? Why the excuses?

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  • lostinstjohns
  • 1 Points
  • 14:59:40, 7 March

If you could stop being so condescending that would be great. I answered the question, I explained how I felt. You are just trying to invalidate my response and my personal experiences with this matter. I don't owe you a response, or an explanation, about anything.

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  • suddenlysomnolent
  • 1 Points
  • 15:09:53, 7 March

If you'd stop being deliberately obtuse, that would be great. The question was a simple yes or no. You made a long, drawn-out reply detailing all your encounters with a distinct lack of remorse and a whole lot of excuses. And at the very end, you made some vague apology should your bf read what you said. All I'm trying to do here is make you confront your own actions truthfully rather than play the victim. Loneliness or horniness isn't a justifiable excuse. You're concerned with your own feelings here, not the feelings of people you are wronging. And like I said, if that's who you are, then don't apologize. Actually, I'm beginning to think you're inciting rage for your own personal amusement.

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  • lostinstjohns
  • 1 Points
  • 15:24:55, 7 March

Guess what? It's not your job to decide any of that.

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  • [deleted]
  • -11 Points
  • 02:51:00, 7 March

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  • 2 Points
  • 03:03:04, 7 March

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  • -3 Points
  • 03:13:38, 7 March

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  • [deleted]
  • -4 Points
  • 03:57:45, 7 March

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  • clydefrog811
  • -1 Points
  • 04:07:55, 7 March

Are you my ex? (joking) Something similar happened to me but I was the mister (What is male version of mistress?)

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  • lostinstjohns
  • -3 Points
  • 04:11:06, 7 March

No. I am not. If you were you would recognize the username.

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  • clydefrog811
  • 2 Points
  • 04:18:28, 7 March

I was joking I knew you weren't since I dont live on an island