5'10 female here. Some thoughts after reading through many posts on this sub. (self.short)
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I've seen a lot of posts saying how depressing this sub can be for shorter people. I just wanted to pop in and say thank you for opening my eyes.
When I was a teen, I dated a guy who was about a foot shorter than me. We were soooo in love as teens are apt to be. I remember riding around town in his mustang, trying to find a secret spot to make-out, comparing our hand sizes... he loved my long fingers and I loved his strong hands with guitar calluses on the findertips. I never gave a second thought to the whole height disparity... until...
Many of my friends said we looked "weird" together. Some guys would claim that I "could do so much better". I didn't understand. He was a musician and I was an idealist. We were so happy together. Why would people care about our height?
I never let the comments bother me too much while we dated, but it did subconciously invade my thoughts throughout my 20s. I spent so much of my time considering how the person I chose to date would look to outside observers. I knew from experience that tall girl/short boy combos attracted a lot of undue attention and I actively sought to avoid that. If a man approached me who was shorter than me, I would automatically dismiss them as boyfriend material. I wasn't trying to be mean or discriminatory, I was just trying to stay in the shadows. I am so sorry for that. I can't begin to understand how that made you feel. It was unfair, shallow, and completely shitty of me.
Now that I am 30, single again, and have had my share good and bad relationships, I am once again ready to confront my demons. It's tough being a tallish girl, but I see that it is much more difficult being a short guy.
Like i said at the beginning, thank you for helping me look back and see where my height descrimination began. It's really hard for me to look past what others think of what I do, but I'm going to be much more aware of it now, thanks to this sub. I look forward to seeing things again through the uncorrupted eyes I had before the teasing began. Kids are fucking cruel, man. I'll never be able to allow myself to consider height as a factor in the dating world ever again.
TLDR: Keep up the good fight. This sub may be depressing at times, but it really does make a difference. Knowlege is power!
22 comments submitted at 15:50:17 on Nov 19, 2013 by dawn_quixote