My wife thinks I do nothing all day (self.sysadmin)
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My wife and I have three kids and I'm the only one who works. She stays home with our youngest who isn't in school yet. I make really good money but its still tight because I'm the only one who works.
I am the senior administrator at a company that does I.T. infrastructure for dental offices all around the U.S. On a daily basis, I manage Windows and Linux based servers, engineer new installs, troubleshoot T3 issues, and do anything else that needs to be done. My boss calls me the smoke jumper because my job is to put out the big fires and proactively prevent them. I come home exhausted and stressed almost every day after working at least 10 hours. But I love what I do (most days) and wouldn't trade it for anything.
However, she thinks because I sit at my desk in my office 90% of day, I don't work hard and could be making a lot more money doing something physical. (Think oil field)
Anyone else have similar issues with people not understanding how hard we actually work just because we sit at desks most of the day? How can I explain it in terms she'll understand?
Edit: Wow, this blew up... Sorry I turned /r/sysadmin into /r/relationshipadvice. Reading through all the comments and replying now.
Edit2: To clarify, she doesn't mention physical jobs for the looks, the oil field is just physical and people around here are making a ton of money.
Edit3: More backstory: We live in WY (Super low cost of living). The recent oil boom nearby has gotten a lot of her friends' husbands jobs that make a lot of money, but they're gone all the time. I met her five years ago. When we met, she was a single mother with two kids living in government housing on food stamps with no job. I am not judgmental and I know everyone falls on hard times. I liked her, she liked me, we dated. Eventually we got a place together and had a kid together and then got married. Since I met her, she's never had a job. I'm okay with this as long as she takes good care of the kids and keeps the house clean, which she does. I am lazy and work a lot of overtime without warning so I don't help around the house as much as I should. I do cook dinner every night that I'm home and I spend time with the kids and then put them to bed. But I don't clean up after myself and I am messy. We live paycheck to paycheck and don't have extra money for things. She is very materialistic and wants more money for things. She doesn't care about me physically working. She just thinks I'm lazy and that's why I don't want to work physically in the oil fields making more money.
269 comments submitted at 07:20:22 on Apr 5, 2014 by aenigma