Why do some guys get upset by the idea of a girl having wild/fun/crazy relationships in her youth and then falling in love with a stable/dependable man later? (self.AskWomen)
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For reference, I am that girl (sort of). I dated the whole smorgasbord of crazy men back in my high school and college days, because well that's what happens when you're young and want excitement. But the relationships never worked out because of lack of stability.
I'm 28 now and have absolutely fallen head-over-heels for this one guy, we've been dating for about 1.5 years. He's nothing like my previous boyfriends; he's quieter, calmer, has an interesting job, and honestly perhaps not on the same level of physical well-being. But I'm absolutely in love with him anyway because I've started to admire those qualities more and more.
I was talking to him about my ex's a while ago and mentioned this stuff, and he got pretty upset. He won't tell me why and I'm a bit perplexed as to why his reaction was so negative when I told him. I thought he'd be proud of the fact he's the one I want to keep and eventually marry, and not those other men.
So my question is... have you noticed a prevalent attitude like this among guys in your social circle? Why do a lot of guys get hurt by this idea?
51 comments submitted at 18:03:16 on Apr 6, 2014 by seattlenostalgia1