Am dating a guy who is less conventionally attractive than I am, not sure how to deal with rude attention from other guys (self.AskMen)
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I'm 22 and have been going out with a 26yrold guy for the last 2 months or so. He is kind, funny, has a stable job/life and I think he is attractive in an unconventional, endearing way.
The problem is that when we go out together, I'm not sure how to deal with the negative attention from people (99.9% male) who feel the need to stare/make rude comments about how I am "out of his league."
Guys will start hitting on me or trying to touch me even though it is obvious I am there on a date, and when I turn them down, they pretend to act all surprised ("Ohh this is your boyfriend? Sorry bro didn't realize!") Guys have randomly shouted things like "Nice job!" to him on the street, or mutter things like "I don't get it" within earshot.
I have no idea what to say/do in these situations without embarrassing him or sounding like I agree with the assholes. Usually there is just an uncomfortable moment and we both pretend it didn't happen.
He doesn't seem insecure, but he has been nervous to get more physical with me (he was so nervous the first time we made out that his hands were shaking and seems afraid to initiate anything more) and I wonder if all the harassment has something to do with it.
tl;dr How should I react when rude strangers make comments about my bf's appearance without embarrassing him? And could this be making him insecure about sex? Thanks in advance for your insight, men
135 comments submitted at 01:10:27 on Apr 13, 2014 by awkwardsituation22