How to attract the 'right' kind of man? (self.TwoXChromosomes)
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I'm 23, and literally all of my encounters/relationships with men have ended with me getting dicked over. I've never had a legitimate relationship. It's all been dating for a few months and hooking up. I keep asking myself what is wrong with me? Am I not sensitive enough, am I not feminine enough, etc... why haven't I found a boyfriend yet?My sister says it's because of the guys I go for (apparently players and d-bags)
A little background: I am somewhat picky on who I date. If I am not physically attracted to someone, I don't feel comfortable going on a date with them because that would be leading them on. My sister says that all hot guys are douchebags but I can't bring myself to be in a relationship with someone I'm not (physically) attracted to. I tried dating this guy who wasn't my typical type, but seemed like a genuine guy. He still ended up ditching me after we had sex (he was a frat boy but I didn't know it until afterwards). The guys I've been with seem to be emotionally unavailable. They just want to have sex, they don't want a relationship. Why do I go for this kind of guy?
I'm not ugly, I'm not socially awkward, I have two jobs and go to school full-time, I work out, hike, write, read, do yoga, have friends, travel, family-oriented... so it's not like I don't have a life. I'm happy with my life right now besides the fact that I'd like to know what a real relationship feels like, just so I can experience it.
Should I see a therapist? Is there something inherently wrong with me that I carry around subconsciously (ie. daddy issues or something)? Or how can I change who I attract/am attracted to?
45 comments submitted at 21:31:16 on Jun 2, 2014 by dericious10001