Did I dodge a bullet or am I really broken? (self.AskMen)

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190 ups - 0 downs = 190 votes

So I've been single for just shy of two years now and was getting intimate with a woman over the weekend. As we were about to have sex, she stopped and asked when my last sti test was.

I said it had been somewhere between three or 4 years ago. She got a creeped out look on her face, so I explained I'd only HAD one partner in the last 5 years, I'd been clean when we started and so was she, so there was no reason to. She then got this disgusted look on her face, like there was somethin wrong with me. "So you've only been with one person in the last 4 years? How long since you've been laid". I admitted that, yes, I'd only been with one woman in the last few years, and it had been over two years since I'd had sex.

She laughed at me, gave me a quick peck, then grabbed her stuff and walked out. Saying something along the lines of, "I wanted to get FUCKED tonight, not fucking bored."

Obviously I'm not going to talk to a bitch like that again, but this is a first for me. I've never had this happen before: we were about to hook up, then I answer the sti question and get laughed off the stage. Notwithstanding that I HAVE had a lot of sex, though mostly in the context of relationships, is thi a thing now?

Is my manhood and worth really judged on my ability to get regular sex? Am I somehow less of a man because I'm not adding notches a couple times a year? Why would she have drawn all these conclusions simply because I haven't fucked in awhile?

169 comments submitted at 13:19:21 on Aug 11, 2014 by throwaway101801

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  • Helidz
  • 238 Points
  • 13:55:43, 11 August

You dodged a cannonball.

  • [-]
  • Alex-E
  • 41 Points
  • 15:04:12, 11 August

Missile*

  • [-]
  • SammiKC
  • 37 Points
  • 15:09:41, 11 August

Nuke*

  • [-]
  • distructor20
  • 11 Points
  • 15:56:29, 11 August

Snuke*

  • [-]
  • That_Unknown_Guy
  • 1 Points
  • 16:17:01, 11 August

Snuke Snuke

  • [-]
  • Craftjunkie
  • 1 Points
  • 16:57:03, 11 August

Death by snuke snuke

  • [-]
  • Popensquat
  • 1 Points
  • 16:41:55, 11 August

"They snuck a snuke up my snatch!"

  • [-]
  • malicious_turtle
  • 3 Points
  • 15:23:41, 11 August

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ekv7OPMNxGo

  • [-]
  • Nymphetomine
  • 48 Points
  • 15:09:39, 11 August

Cunt*

  • [-]
  • stanknutz1985
  • 1 Points
  • 16:14:46, 11 August

Cuntmissile*

  • [-]
  • SerBison
  • 1 Points
  • 15:59:22, 11 August

Wreckingball*

  • [-]
  • ChrisVolkoff
  • 1 Points
  • 16:15:40, 11 August

she came in like a wreckingball

  • [-]
  • PossiblyAnIrishGuy
  • 1 Points
  • 16:35:03, 11 August

And she left like a cunt.

  • [-]
  • Knuckldragger
  • 372 Points
  • 13:21:15, 11 August

You dodged a bullet.

  • [-]
  • law_guy
  • 138 Points
  • 14:18:04, 11 August

She probably left because she'd have felt bad giving OP herpes.

  • [-]
  • Brooney
  • 55 Points
  • 14:14:21, 11 August

Grenade

  • [-]
  • malicious_turtle
  • 61 Points
  • 14:27:27, 11 August

A fucking thermonuclear warhead

>"I wanted to get FUCKED tonight, not fucking bored."

What a bitch.

  • [-]
  • ARDad
  • 128 Points
  • 13:36:41, 11 August

Please, don't base your self esteem off of that bitches opinion.

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  • LEIFey
  • 44 Points
  • 13:41:51, 11 August

Dodged a bullet. Don't judge your worth based on the opinion of other people. And if you have to do that, at least make sure the people are good ones. This girl was a pretty awful person.

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  • sleepyeepee
  • 4 Points
  • 15:05:09, 11 August

Agreed. I can't imagine any decent person reacting in such a way.

  • [-]
  • anonymmonsta
  • 26 Points
  • 13:51:27, 11 August

You dodged a bullet. That sounds pretty crazy to me.

  • [-]
  • Machinemagic
  • 23 Points
  • 15:01:40, 11 August

>Is my manhood and worth really judged on my ability to get regular sex?

Yes, by some people. Let's call these people "Idiots." We don't worry about the opinions of idiots.

>Am I somehow less of a man because I'm not adding notches a couple times a year?

No. Masculinity is not determined by the number of sexual partners you have. That's a very immature definition of masculinity promoted by advertisers and magazines like Maxim and Cosmo. It's designed to make you feel deeply insecure about yourself and the number of people you have sex with, which in turn makes you worry that you're not attractive enough, and there they are, waiting to "help" you, the whole cosmetics industry and Maxim and pick-up artistry and all this other bullshit they want to sell you so that you can achieve this inane, immature concept of masculinity.

>Why would she have drawn all these conclusions simply because I haven't fucked in awhile?

Because she's a fucking moron, what do you think?

  • [-]
  • Nanpa
  • 12 Points
  • 14:23:10, 11 August

You dodged a bullet better than Neo did in the matrix.

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  • TheWrongTrousers
  • 8 Points
  • 14:52:47, 11 August

Look, this isn't normal behavior. You met a rude woman with bad manners and some weird expectations.

Shrug it off and try not to analyze it too much. She's a flippin' weirdo.

  • [-]
  • lemonypinket
  • 23 Points
  • 14:53:39, 11 August

She's a bitch and PLEASE don't think now that all women are like that.

  • [-]
  • scartol
  • 25 Points
  • 15:17:30, 11 August

#notallwomen

  • [-]
  • will370
  • 1 Points
  • 16:14:56, 11 August

#yesallmen

  • [-]
  • Daveezie
  • 1 Points
  • 16:14:57, 11 August

#yesallmen

... Wait a second. I think we set the movement back.

  • [-]
  • MasonJarTeaDrinker
  • 3 Points
  • 15:34:41, 11 August

AWALT? NAWALT?

  • [-]
  • MagicGainbow
  • -1 Points
  • 15:53:00, 11 August

And yet, being a virgin male is shamed (and not by men), in this case women created this problem.

  • [-]
  • anon445
  • 7 Points
  • 15:56:52, 11 August

Men also virgin shame.

  • [-]
  • MagicGainbow
  • 1 Points
  • 15:59:07, 11 August

I've never seen it, the only people i've ever heard use virgin as an insult were female, men don't do it because they know how hard it is being a virgin, you have to have it to get it and if you don't its difficult to get in the first place.

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  • anon445
  • 1 Points
  • 16:12:19, 11 August

You really haven't? I've probably seen more virgin shaming from guys than girls.

"Oh you like gaming? That's probably why you're a virgin."

"Psh, at least I've gotten laid."

"Seriously, have you even seen a pair of tits? I don't mean in porn, but in real life."

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  • xtmno3
  • 34 Points
  • 13:21:58, 11 August

She was looking for something different than you were. She probably fucks a lot of dudes (not judging, just saying), and was looking for something outside her normal experience range. I wouldn't sweat it and if I had to choose between the two choices in the title, I would say you dodged a bullet.

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  • [deleted]
  • -16 Points
  • 15:12:24, 11 August

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  • [-]
  • rushawa20
  • 8 Points
  • 15:18:39, 11 August

Actually, it's a pretty reasonable conclusion to infer from the scenario and what she said. Not 100% guaranteed, obviously, but likely nonetheless.

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  • MasonJarTeaDrinker
  • 6 Points
  • 15:33:09, 11 August

Is she serious? I'm pretty sure this chick does fuck a lot of random dudes, specially with that reaction.

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  • [deleted]
  • -7 Points
  • 15:20:08, 11 August

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  • [-]
  • rushawa20
  • 15 Points
  • 15:28:43, 11 August

What are you talking about? Imagine i strolled onto a tennis court and the guy across the net said "wait a minute, when was the last time you had your racket re - stringed?"

I might reply "umm.. 4 years ago? I haven't played tennis for several years, so there's been no need."

The guy picks up his bag and walks off, laughing "I want a challenging game, not to be bored by you."

I'd say its pretty reasonable to infer that he plays a lot of tennis.

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  • naryn
  • 3 Points
  • 15:32:14, 11 August

It sounds more like she does because of the information given, somebody who has sex with multiple partners would be more wary of STIs and would prefer a partner with more experience

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  • PM_ME_YOUR_STERNUM
  • 10 Points
  • 13:37:38, 11 August

You are not broken, or any less of a man. At least you gave an honest answer. Sounds like she wasn't the type of girl you want anyway, and are you probably in a safer spot now than you would be if you had slept with her.

But just a word of advice, I suggest getting a test anyway. Just because you were both clean before the relationship started doesn't mean you are clean now. It's a longshot, but still possible.

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  • throwaway101801
  • 10 Points
  • 13:40:55, 11 August

I'm thinking I should get it done jusy so I can avoid any more awkward convos like this weekend. At least if it's recent, I won't have to be honest.

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  • TastyBrainMeats
  • 1 Points
  • 16:13:45, 11 August

Not a bad idea to get tests on a semi-regular basis, just in case of freak incident.

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  • dontforgetpants
  • 1 Points
  • 16:44:17, 11 August

Yeah, I wad also going to say you need to be tested. I wouldn't hook up with a dude who hadn't been tested in four years even if he had only had one partner. Being "pretty sure" you're clean isn't sure enough.

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  • WholeLottaToughLove
  • 78 Points
  • 13:32:24, 11 August

You learned your lesson on what not to do when you're about to bang a slut, but you really shouldn't let sluts affect your self-image.

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  • throwaway101801
  • 40 Points
  • 13:41:21, 11 August

So what, never be honest?

  • [-]
  • thetimeissnow
  • 105 Points
  • 14:01:54, 11 August

Welcome to the hookup culture where you say whatever gets you laid.

  • [-]
  • theguywithacomputer
  • 9 Points
  • 15:40:33, 11 August

"Oh my job? I'm a robot cowboy astronaut"

  • [-]
  • Crims0n5
  • 9 Points
  • 15:49:59, 11 August

Hey wait a minute... this hat comes right off!! You're a phony!!

  • [-]
  • jmdxsvhs15
  • 40 Points
  • 14:59:58, 11 August

I recommend op pull his dick out at the club, make eye contact with an obvious slut, and say, "Yeah.....you like that you fuckin retard?" Guaranteed sex.

  • [-]
  • BigJAnder
  • 9 Points
  • 15:03:34, 11 August

"Talk dirty to me!"

  • [-]
  • Kudhos
  • 1 Points
  • 16:24:56, 11 August

<insert flute riff>

  • [-]
  • thetimeissnow
  • 4 Points
  • 15:00:55, 11 August

Ha...ha?

  • [-]
  • Clark_Savage_Jr
  • 3 Points
  • 15:27:08, 11 August

I read that in the voice of Harvey Birdman's boss, Phil Ken Sebben.

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  • cosmicsans
  • 1 Points
  • 16:20:57, 11 August

Are you fucking sorry?

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  • ItsAJTime
  • 1 Points
  • 15:25:15, 11 August

This, so many times this. As much as I might be a bad person for doing so, I prefer the hookup culture, where in order to get laid, you need to do three things.

  1. Be good looking
  2. Not be bad looking
  3. Talk
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  • WholeLottaToughLove
  • 21 Points
  • 13:45:26, 11 August

Yeah, basically. Tell people what they want to hear, they won't be around long enough to notice, so fuck it.

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  • JaronK
  • 1 Points
  • 16:03:14, 11 August

No. Be honest, so you know when someone isn't actually good for you. There was something wrong with this woman (not that she was a "slut", mind you), and you found that out by being honest. That's a damn good thing.

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  • makesmecringe
  • 2 Points
  • 15:19:48, 11 August

I guess it depends on if it's a one night stand or something more serious.

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  • melani8
  • 6 Points
  • 14:07:43, 11 August

No, always tell the truth.

I am a woman and I would be very happy, if a guy said he has been with only 1 woman. No. Of sex partners doesn't mean how good you are at sex.

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  • Dajbman22
  • 19 Points
  • 14:22:40, 11 August

We're talking about a ONS, not a girlfriend here, though. If anything was serious enough for feelings to be involved, I would agree with you 100%, but honestly it sounds like this girl was just as much in it for a tit-for-tat sexual experience, so why is honesty about something like that important?

Honesty about STI's and other things like that, IMO should always be used, even if it costs you a chance to hook up, because that is a matter of health/safety. Otherwise, if you're never going to talk to each other again, what's the point of honesty?

For what it's worth, that's exactly why I don't participate in hookup culture.

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  • Machinemagic
  • 20 Points
  • 14:55:52, 11 August

>For what it's worth, that's exactly why I don't participate in hookup culture.

DING DING DING

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  • melani8
  • 1 Points
  • 14:26:13, 11 August

Asking for sti testing: yes.

And you could have sex with 1 person and get sti or with 100 and not get it. If I am about to hook up with someone I don't care with how many people he had sex or when was the last time he had sex.

  • [-]
  • harbo
  • 5 Points
  • 15:27:29, 11 August

OP this is terrible, terrible advice from a lying liar. Never, ever tell a woman you're inexperienced.

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  • MagicGainbow
  • 9 Points
  • 15:54:54, 11 August

This, I led first time and it works, this is one of those thing like showing your emotions to a chick because she wants to see your ''more vulnerable side'' it sounds good to them in theory but in practice has the opposite effect.

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  • dlefnemulb_rima
  • 2 Points
  • 15:16:40, 11 August

How is sex the only thing where practice doesn't make perfect?

  • [-]
  • melani8
  • 4 Points
  • 15:44:15, 11 August

He was in a serious relationship. You can practise every day.

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  • dlefnemulb_rima
  • 1 Points
  • 16:06:49, 11 August

Oh right, yeah. Two years. Didn't do the maths.

  • [-]
  • Pureburn
  • 1 Points
  • 16:02:27, 11 August

OP do NOT listen to this. If you're trying to bang a slut, lie about EVERYTHING and say what she wants to hear.

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  • Decker87
  • -1 Points
  • 15:22:43, 11 August

Well you're also not about to bang him, so...theres that...

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  • Sabrejack
  • 1 Points
  • 16:07:56, 11 August

No, don't do that. There's way more to life than sex. Save your lies for the important things. After all, integrity isn't something you can just pick up in a bar.

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  • sometypeofperson
  • 1 Points
  • 16:56:44, 11 August

You can't assume a flirt will progress even close to a relationship anymore, if you want a friend you can try being honest, if you want to get laid... no, not really. You don't necessarily have to lie, you just avoid any topic that would force you to, to maintain the facade and keep her in her happy, blissful fantasy of being wooed by a player stud.

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  • Esotericgirl
  • 1 Points
  • 16:14:03, 11 August

Please don't let this one chick's shitty attitude spoil your sense of honesty when it comes to potential sex or relationship partners.

There are a ton of women who prefer men who are honest (even bluntly so), it's a wonderful trait to have. Most of us aren't going to give two shits if you haven't been laid in awhile, that's not a measure of your "manliness" or sexual prowess. That just happens to be the reality of your current situation. It's really not a huge thing.

That being said, even though you've only had one partner in the last several years, and you both believed you were clean, please get an updated STD test before you start heading out and sexing up more women. A lot of us are going to want that information, and it's something you can easily do to be responsible for your own health.

Also, for your own safety, you have every right to want to see/know about her current STD testing as well.

This will help keep you healthy. Best of luck.

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  • WisdomModifier
  • 1 Points
  • 16:19:10, 11 August

Always be honest, OP. Honesty separates people in the most definitive way. There are those who are truthful, and those who are liars, and while the lines are occasionally blurred amongst crowds, YOU will always know which side you're on.

This goes for everything. Not just women.

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  • fatherbrain30
  • 14 Points
  • 14:24:14, 11 August

This is kind of weird, even some "sluts" wouldn't get bothered by this. This woman is a bitch though.

  • [-]
  • AliceWroteThis
  • 22 Points
  • 14:54:17, 11 August

Yes. Bitch is more appropriate.

I know a lot of very nice "sluts" who would never do this.

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  • Decker87
  • 10 Points
  • 15:24:02, 11 August

Yeah me too. In fact one of my good friends has a lot of casual sex and I'm sure she'd take it as an opportunity to "make up for lost time". The girl in OP sounds like she was just selfish.

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  • remsone
  • 17 Points
  • 14:49:48, 11 August

Honest question, why use the word slut here?

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  • Decker87
  • 10 Points
  • 15:25:20, 11 August

IMO, its just a response that is most likely to come from someone who has a lot of casual sex. She was so casual about it that she didn't care about him at all.

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  • gravvs
  • -6 Points
  • 15:00:45, 11 August

internalized sexism and misguided anger. That fact that this woman was a total bitch is unrelated to whether she has a lot of sex. In fact it's very possible that this was her 'big night' to go fuck some random dude and she was upset because she doesn't normally do this.

Doesn't excuse her acting like a bitch. But acting like a decent human being and having a lot of a sexual partners are not mutually exclusive.

edit: I'm not defending her. The bitch is a cunt. I just don't think using the word slut is helpful to anyone.

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  • Throw13579
  • 5 Points
  • 15:44:05, 11 August

If it was her big night to have sex, she should have gone ahead and had sex, not assumed he would not be experienced enough and gone home alone.

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  • gravvs
  • -2 Points
  • 15:45:59, 11 August

I'm not defending her. She's a total cunt. I'm just saying we shouldn't call people sluts.

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  • spron
  • 1 Points
  • 16:06:11, 11 August

But cunt and bitch are okay? I'd fathom that at such a point, slut, too, is okay.

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  • GibsonJunkie
  • 1 Points
  • 16:16:06, 11 August

I agree. The fact that /r/AskMen is so quick to jump on the bitch/slut/cunt bandwagon is pretty terrible.

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  • gravvs
  • 1 Points
  • 16:21:18, 11 August

Cunt and bitch are gendered slurs and that's a whole debate in and of itself.

Slut is something different. It is meant to control the amount of sex women have.

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  • spron
  • 1 Points
  • 16:56:23, 11 August

Yes but aren't "bitch" and "cunt" similarly reductive to essentially saying that women are very strictly vaginas? I'm speaking literally, here.

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  • trefusius
  • 5 Points
  • 15:24:32, 11 August

*bitch

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  • PanchDog
  • -9 Points
  • 15:33:03, 11 August

Amazing how many white knights pop up in this subreddit when it comes to slut shaming (or anything really. Not a lot of honest answers in this sub. Just nice guy heroes) but whoa, let a guy get rejected by a woman and we're upvoting calling her a slut.

Lmfao there's a lot of repressed youngins in here. At least I hope you're young with this slut shaming and virginal white knighting.

Is askboys a sub?

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  • ekisdors
  • 1 Points
  • 16:15:32, 11 August

You dropped something...

Dickhead.

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  • bass_n_treble
  • 3 Points
  • 15:57:06, 11 August

All bow to the mighty... what's your name? Oh, who gives a shit.

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  • WholeLottaToughLove
  • 4 Points
  • 15:39:47, 11 August

Slut
slut
SLUT
Sluttity sluttity slut

SLUUUUT

Having a seizure yet?

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  • PanchDog
  • -3 Points
  • 15:43:28, 11 August

I'm not championing the anti slut shaming movement. It's how hypocritical dudes in this sub are. Typical repressed reddit adolescents. "I'll be your white knight until I get friend zoned. Then you're a slutty slutty slut bitch." Lol. It's pathetic.

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  • [deleted]
  • -3 Points
  • 15:14:02, 11 August

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  • [-]
  • Decker87
  • 7 Points
  • 15:25:57, 11 August

IMO, slut = someone who has a lot of casual sex. It's only derogatory if you think that's a bad thing.

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  • Cimeas
  • 5 Points
  • 15:33:48, 11 August

If we think of a slut as the female version of a player, that is someone who just wants to have sex with as many people as possible, doesn't care about anyone else's satisfaction, and just wants to bang regardless of anyone else's feelings.

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  • WholeLottaToughLove
  • 7 Points
  • 15:24:31, 11 August

She's a slut because she prioritizes sexual gratification over basic human decency. That's my definition of a slut.

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  • vexil
  • 5 Points
  • 14:15:24, 11 August

Dodged a fucking meteorite, bro. Don't let that bitch bring you down.

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  • der_Enzigeh
  • 7 Points
  • 14:50:32, 11 August

What a savage bitch

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  • MCMXChris
  • 5 Points
  • 15:28:59, 11 August

I hope you told her "Try not to suck any cock on the way out to the parking lot!" after she made fun of you.

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  • justyntime
  • 4 Points
  • 15:31:01, 11 August

At the same time you really have to respect her Whore game. If youre gonna be a whore you might as well go full whore.

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  • WorldWar2Chains
  • 4 Points
  • 14:19:07, 11 August

Less bullet dodging and more intercontinental ballistic missile dodging

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  • the_hardest_part
  • 4 Points
  • 15:01:40, 11 August

Girl here. Her behaviour was disgusting.

For me, it would be a BIGGER turn-on to find out that you hadn't been a manwhore the last two years.

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  • rooberdookie
  • 4 Points
  • 15:17:24, 11 August

Wow, that's super fucked up. Also, it doesn't make a whole lot of sense to me... she wants to sleep with someone who is STI free but also regularly has casual sex?

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  • MasonJarTeaDrinker
  • -1 Points
  • 15:49:00, 11 August

If they use rubbers and don't have the herp it's a possibility.

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  • DuapDuap
  • 7 Points
  • 14:50:24, 11 August

If you really wanted to get laid you perhaps should not have mentioned that, though I'd say good riddance considering she was a complete asshole.

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  • Rodalli
  • 3 Points
  • 14:59:33, 11 August

Seems to me that you either dodged a bullet, or she didn't really want to have sex in the first place and was just looking for an out...and someone who doesn't have the backbone to be honest about what she does/doesn't want isn't someone you want to be wasting time with anyway.

Either way, there's nothing wrong with you.

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  • Fugera
  • 3 Points
  • 15:00:05, 11 August

Dude- you dodged a bullet. I, for one, would consider it a compliment if the guy I was with hadn't been intimate in a while but was willing to go there with me.

Also: if she thinks you don't know how to handle sex because it's been some time, she's plain stupid.

No, you're not broken, OP. don't let her opinion make you re-evaluate your own opinion of yourself - she's the shallow insert ugly word here.

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  • JohnStamosEnoughSaid
  • 3 Points
  • 15:54:49, 11 August

Your good mate theres an epidemic of these cunts. She wanted to get fucked so bad she doesnt even try ? Pfffft gettin tired of these selfish idiots want everythin and a cake. Rub one out youll be fine she wasnt worth yer cock.

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  • passepar2t
  • 4 Points
  • 15:56:56, 11 August

While she is a horrible bitch, I wonder how many women have a much milder version of this kind of mentality. As in they won't bring it up but they'd definitely get turned off by it.

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  • NonsenseIncoming
  • 6 Points
  • 13:58:27, 11 August

The thing is, for every slag that feels you're no experienced enough at banging slags, other more wholesome girls decide not to sleep with the guy who does bang slags on a regular basis.

Wouldn't worry about it. You clearly didn't miss much and aren't looking for someone like her

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  • simplypam
  • 4 Points
  • 14:57:41, 11 August

23F here. You dodged a bullet.

(I'd roundhouse kick that girl in the face. That's just rude.)

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  • MasonJarTeaDrinker
  • 0 Points
  • 15:49:44, 11 August

LMAO IDK why I just pictured somebody doing that, a random imaginary woman getting roundhouse kicked.

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  • itsmevichet
  • 2 Points
  • 15:20:44, 11 August

"Less of a man."

I'll subscribe to the validity of this construction and answer as follows, if that's what you're really concerned about:

You're not less of a man because you haven't gotten laid in two years. You're less of a man because you're concerned about what it means to be "less of a man."

Free yourself from that expectation, and go do whatever the hell it is you wanted to do before this social retard came in and insulted you for not being exactly what she wanted.

If it wasn't obvious already, you dodged a bullet. And, if you felt fine about your sex life before this hag brought it up, there's no reason that her opinion should change that.

Disclaimer: not all of masculinity as a "package deal" is good. You'll be a lot happier if you don't think in terms of societal expectations of masculinity, trust me.

If you wanna have lots of sex, learn how to meet more women and have lots of sex, but don't make it about "masculinity" or "being a man."

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  • ThrowbiWan
  • 0 Points
  • 15:45:14, 11 August

>Free yourself from that expectation, and go do whatever the hell it is you wanted to do before this social retard came in and insulted you for not being exactly what she wanted.

Oh well he probably wanted to have sex right before she went retard. I doubt he can simply go and get some on his own :P

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  • itsmevichet
  • 1 Points
  • 16:01:09, 11 August

> I doubt he can simply go and get some on his own :P

That's actually exactly what he did, until he found out she was a shitty person.

  • [-]
  • bkzhotsauc3
  • 2 Points
  • 15:25:21, 11 August

Atomic bomb.

What you value is different from what she values.

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  • sykilik101
  • 2 Points
  • 15:29:04, 11 August

On one hand, it's not bad that she asked if you were clean. It's not bad for anyone to make an effort to be safe, so that part is fine.

On the other, you dodged one hell of a bullet.

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  • xxperksxx
  • 2 Points
  • 15:58:31, 11 August

She sounds like a nasty cunt. Anyone that would leave because you haven't fucked half of the town is a stupid bitch anyway. Please don't let it bother you.

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  • Pureburn
  • 1 Points
  • 15:58:56, 11 August

She's a cunt. You dodged a major bullet. Just because she likely gets fucked by a different guy twice a week doesn't mean it's normal or something you should be okay with.

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  • ialsohaveadobro
  • 1 Points
  • 15:59:21, 11 August

What really burns me up is that you just know she felt completely justified in saying that and never gave it another thought. Some people are just terrible.

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  • klondikegrenade
  • 1 Points
  • 16:04:43, 11 August

Why would it even occur to you to think you're somehow broken because you aren't a slut that sleeps around with any woman that spreads her legs? That doesn't even make sense to me.

You're fine, but there's something wrong with her.

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  • boolean_sledgehammer
  • 1 Points
  • 16:07:01, 11 August

You probably dodged some weaponized chlamydia. I wouldn't worry.

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  • 5th_Law_of_Robotics
  • 1 Points
  • 16:19:24, 11 August

And we're told only women are shamed (by men naturally) for their sexual history...

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  • mismagicalladyfinger
  • 1 Points
  • 16:31:36, 11 August

Wow, that is a cruel and exceptionally narrow woman. There is no one that will fuck you better and harder than a guy who hasn't been laid in two goddamn years. He'll go all night.

Dodged a major bullet if that's the way her mind works. People try a lot in a relationship (usually) and the more comfortable you are then the crazier stuff you can do cause there's trust and all that shit. She's probably under the belief that more partners equals more practice equals better sex. That's a horribly and wickedly skewed view of sex. Also, massive thundercunt thing to do and say.

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  • godmodus
  • 1 Points
  • 16:38:15, 11 August

not broken, dodged a bullet, but dude... you need a lesson in not giving a fuck because you sure as hell shouldnt. got and get another, aim for less crazy this time.

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  • mariselainez
  • 1 Points
  • 16:38:26, 11 August

She sounds like a fucking bitch. I can't go out on a limb and say most chicks aren't like that, but I can say that I am not like that. Bullet dodged, manhood intact.

That being said, if I were you I'd get a test just to be sure. Especially if you're not worried about the outcome, there's nothing to lose. I was in what I thought was a steady committed relationship for about a year, till I got a call from the gynecologist telling me that the chlamydia test I let them do (because they recommend a chlamydia/gonorrhea test for everyone no matter what) came back positive. As a woman, it's easy to mistake that for a yeast infection and not know until it's serious. I don't know about for a guy in regards to chlamydia specifically, but I do know there are several STIs you can have as a man and not have any red flag symptoms.

Not trying to be a debbie downer, but I would recommend just getting a test so you can be sure. Not everyone can be trusted (even if you were unequivocally faithful like I was and trusted them completely, like I did). Just get a test and make sure.

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  • thetimeissnow
  • 8 Points
  • 13:21:36, 11 August

> Is my manhood and worth really judged on my ability to get regular sex?

For women who are looking to get FUCKED it pretty much is. Since it sounds like ONS you didn't dodge a bullet, you just didn't get laid.

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  • Fugera
  • 5 Points
  • 15:01:48, 11 August

uh- quantity is no indication of quality - just saying :)

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  • Fayzor
  • 1 Points
  • 16:32:59, 11 August

Yup, so because I've played baseball only twice in my life, it should give no indication to the quality at which my game is, right?

/s

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  • yngwin
  • 2 Points
  • 15:20:30, 11 August

While that may be true, a desirable male would probably get laid more often.

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  • ihaveasourpuss
  • 1 Points
  • 15:38:56, 11 August

Why is it that sex is the only thing that escapes "practice makes perfect"? Sure, OP has had sex before, but if it's been like 4 years since he's practiced, he may be a little crappy in bed.

Not excusing her behavior, just applying logic.

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  • thetimeissnow
  • -2 Points
  • 15:18:05, 11 August

If you haven't practiced in 3-4 years I can say for sure it will be sub-par.

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  • GibsonJunkie
  • 1 Points
  • 16:19:16, 11 August

Eh, I disagree. It's like riding a bicycle. You don't forget that shit.

  • [-]
  • Dajbman22
  • 3 Points
  • 14:19:13, 11 August

You matrixed that entitled bitch. There is nothing wrong with you, and she probably missed out and a good hard banging.

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  • RainbowGoddamnDash
  • 1 Points
  • 14:57:13, 11 August

You might be one of my friends. &#3232;_&#3232;

But yeah, you definitely dodge a bullet.

  • [-]
  • lbspredh
  • 1 Points
  • 15:08:36, 11 August

you dodged a bullet and a risk to your sexual health, win win

  • [-]
  • MovieTheaterHead
  • 1 Points
  • 15:13:59, 11 August

Deeeeeeyum. She a hoe.

  • [-]
  • fishwithabunni
  • 1 Points
  • 15:34:04, 11 August

That is not a nice person you were going to bang.

  • [-]
  • grumpypotato
  • 1 Points
  • 15:38:31, 11 August

What a nutcase.

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  • MrMoreThanAverage
  • 1 Points
  • 15:39:23, 11 August

You're so lucky.
http://youtu.be/Qd8-IYovLRQ?t=16s

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  • cleetdog101
  • 0 Points
  • 15:43:08, 11 August

She was a cunt broseph - you dodged the first of many bullets she would had flung your way.

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  • iceph03nix
  • 1 Points
  • 15:55:08, 11 August

Some people just don't understand that quantity != quality. That or she's in a competition to sleep with more people than her friends, and she's taking the addage, "when you sleep with someone, you're sleeping with everyone they've slept with too" way too seriously.

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  • Wild_Red_Fox
  • 1 Points
  • 16:10:27, 11 August

As a woman, I wouldn't give a flying fuck if you hadn't been laid in a while. I've experienced at least a one year dry patch between relationships, probably longer.

I suspect she was just an asshole. Or alternatively maybe something else happened to ruin the mood, and she used that as an excuse.

Either way- bullet dodged.

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  • ekisdors
  • 1 Points
  • 16:11:28, 11 August

>Am I somehow less of a man because I'm not adding notches a couple times a year?

Most normal people don't fuck a lot of randoms. The whole drunken, hookup thing is only pursued by a small subset of society.

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  • tmart42
  • 1 Points
  • 16:14:26, 11 August

Dodged a bullet buddy.

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  • Christian_Shepard
  • 1 Points
  • 16:20:20, 11 August

She probably would have ended up cutting your penis off in a fight somewhere down the road. You dodged an ICBM.

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  • Kasperblack
  • 1 Points
  • 16:36:22, 11 August

That is literally the worst kind of woman.

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  • Release_the_KRAKEN
  • 1 Points
  • 16:39:12, 11 August

Fuck these bullet analogies. OP, you dodged a cuntbag.

  • [-]
  • TyrannicalStubs
  • 1 Points
  • 16:39:14, 11 August

Dude. Fuck her. I hope she didn't discourage you in terms of relationships. Not everyone's as shallow.

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  • cloverhaze
  • 1 Points
  • 16:41:24, 11 August

Dumb bitch, even if it was one person it could have been everyday for 3 years for all she knows. Don't worry about it she's just a slut

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  • MPS186282
  • 1 Points
  • 16:42:07, 11 August

She was a cunt. You dodged a fucking Bullet Bill.

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  • buildmeupbreakmedown
  • 1 Points
  • 16:43:36, 11 August

You dodged a nuke.

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  • sometypeofperson
  • 1 Points
  • 16:49:22, 11 August

Nah, that's how I'd assume girls would react if I told them. The same reason virgins should never ever mention their status unless they don't want to sleep with the girl they tell.

Do not be candid! You can be after the sex, but even that's a risk if you want to see her again. Never ever before the sex though. The amount of pressure girls have on them to lie about their number? Yeah, lie too, if asked.

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  • seno76
  • 1 Points
  • 16:54:02, 11 August

Moral of the story - lie til you die.

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  • Vohlenzer
  • 1 Points
  • 16:54:14, 11 August

You dodged a bullet.

Consider though that if you'd had the test after the relationship ended your response could be "I haven't had sex since my last test and I'm clean". No follow up questions possible.

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  • BarelyComical
  • 1 Points
  • 16:56:07, 11 August

This sounds like an episode of Louie.

  • [-]
  • holy_doodle
  • 1 Points
  • 16:57:57, 11 August

Man you dodged an open manhole...literally and figuratively.

  • [-]
  • rollswithandywarhol
  • 1 Points
  • 14:09:24, 11 August

She sounds like a bitch but it is a good idea to get tested frequently. For public health and all that.

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  • soylentblueissmurfs
  • 1 Points
  • 14:09:27, 11 August

Don't tell a woman your sexual history. Back when my count was low I could tell women I slept with got turned off when they got to know I wasn't some stud getting laid left and right. This had nothing to do with how good I fucked them or not.

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  • KUN_Aguero
  • 1 Points
  • 14:56:52, 11 August

She figured from your lack of success in the past few years, that you're probably not a very good lay. Yes you dodged a bullet.

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  • MasonJarTeaDrinker
  • 1 Points
  • 15:24:53, 11 August

It's pre selection man, women want a man that get's a lot of women.

However, this was an extreme case and this bitch is just fucken crazy. You're fine bro, don't let this woman get you down like that.

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  • UNDERSCORESlife
  • 1 Points
  • 16:01:56, 11 August

You weren't compatible. She was looking for someone to give her a good sexual time, and yes someone that hasn't been fucked in two years might be a bit rusty. She on the other hand handled it TERRIBLY BAD. She acted like a cunt.

Did you dodge a bullet? For casual sex, no not really. For relationship material, ye.

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  • melani8
  • 1 Points
  • 14:06:03, 11 August

What a crazy woman (coming from a woman).

You dodged a bullet. Don't worry ;)

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  • raziphel
  • 1 Points
  • 15:15:58, 11 August

you dodged a bullet.

get an sti test anyway.

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  • thebigbang319
  • 1 Points
  • 15:23:06, 11 August

From another point of view, you probably intimidated her. As a women, I begin to feel a bit ashamed of myself when I meet a guy that is less experienced than me. I usually quickly change the subject or think twice about giving myself to yet another person. She undoubtedly went about this the wrong way, but it was probably easier for her to direct the negativity towards you than to look in the mirror

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  • MagicGainbow
  • 0 Points
  • 15:51:23, 11 August

''Is my manhood and worth really judged on my ability to get regular sex? Am I somehow less of a man because I'm not adding notches a couple times a year? Why would she have drawn all these conclusions simply because I haven't fucked in awhile?''

In this day and age yes to all of the above.

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  • pirateOfTheCaribbean
  • 0 Points
  • 15:52:17, 11 August

She was crazy, so anything she said should be ignored. But I hate this sexist double standard that men are only men if they're racking up numbers, but women are sluts playing the same game.

Don't feel self conscious at all, you're more likely to be better in bed practicing with a single partner, than lots of random encounters.

Either way, how should could assume the outcome of sex before you even started is beyond me. And hey if you really wanted sex so bad, why did you walk out on it? What an idiot.

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  • nadatech
  • -1 Points
  • 15:36:44, 11 August

You dodged a bullet. Also, keep condoms handy, that way there is no issue of STDs.

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  • K711
  • 1 Points
  • 16:23:08, 11 August

Condoms only protect against a narrow range of STDs. You can get transmit herpes, genital warts, etc. while using conforms properly .